Would it be a bad choice if I left my dad out of my life.

Question

He has never really been there when I was little and even when I got older he was the kind of dad who was a "whenever I am around he's a dad." not dad all of the time. He is verbally abusive and rarely gets physically abusive.He picks on me, and makes me feel like I cant ever do things right. He loves me but can't doesn't know how to show. He loves me enough to get family counseling with my mom, me, my counselor, him, his counselor, and his new wife, I am not so sure he can commit to this, because in his mind he never does anything right. We weren't speaking for 6 months and he never really changed, he stayed the same abotu our relationship. He also married his new wife who he has tricked into I am the reason the family is falling apart and she believes him.She never has made any effort to get to knwo me or talk to me, and when I politely ask him why she doesn't I get yelled at and he replies that it is my job to talk to her. I don't want him in my life and love him enough to make that sacrafice, but I don't want to cause my family anymore pain...

Answer 1

Send hima  copy of your question.

Answer 2

I left my dad out of my life for the same reason. It's not easy at all. I often wonder how we would be. But I learned that he hadn't changed in 17 years, why would he now?

When my mom knew him a few years before I was born, he was still the same. So I finally gave up on him. I decided that if he wants to rebuild our relationship, it's never too late. But I'm done trying.

I wouldn't hold much hope. He hasn't changed yet, I highly doubt he would now. If you feel your strong enough to let go, do it. But it might be more painful to keep thinking he'll change.

I'm so sorry. I wish you the best. :)

Answer 3

it's up to you.... we all live with the consequences we make in life.