Would it be a legal doc./paper if the birth mother....?

Question

....drew up a statement that :the birthfather is "........" ?(whom ever). **Birth father was not listed on birth cert.,he wishes to have contact with child when child is at least 18 years of age. Both bmother & bfather would sign with a notary public stamp on statement.Would this paper be good enough for the birth father to use, for trying first contact with adoptive parents?Thank you. (and yes this is a little confusing)

Answer 1

You didn't mention what state (or country) the adoption took place.  If the mother has or can easily get contact information for the child, and is willing to notarize a statement of paternity (which means she and the father are being civil to one another) then I don't see any reason why she can't just introduce the father to the child.  Am I missing something?

Answer 2

I'm sorry Dave, but I'm very confused. Could you please clarify a little so I could answer you a little better?

*******

Thank you Dave.

Obviously at the time of the adoption, things were done that shouldnt have been. But it's now 17 years later, with just one more year to go. This is a toughie. Whatever the bmom knows, she should be sharing with the bfather. Rather than approach the aparents with some letter, I would suggest that they go together to make that contact with their child. They may no longer be together, but they both have some emotional stakes in this.

When I gave up my daughters for adoption, at the time their father denied paternity, and DNA testing was just beginning to become a reality. Fast forward 16 years later, their father and I have just begun talking again & now he admits that he always knew that he was their father. I've given him all the info I have on them as well as all the pics, and we've talked that when it's time we will put the past & our differences behind us and go together.

Answer 3

It might be a good idea to contact an adoption attorney for this.  Adoption laws can be tricky and differ at each State so legal advice may be warranted.

Laura

Answer 4

You don't need permission, or any paper.  This is America, you can contact anyone you want.

Answer 5

No. It is not good enough.  There are full on adoption packages from the court that have to filled out and then recorded with the county courts.

Answer 6

Birthfather and birthmother must both sign a release for a child to be adopted.  If the father signed off he has no rights to contact the child until that child is 18.  If at the time that the child was adopted the birthfather requested an open adoption then he would be allowed limited contact according to the agreement.  If the birthfather wasn't told of the adoption and is now wanting contact he can apply to the courts to see the child if DNA proves him to be the father but then that starts a whole new legal battle in regards to if the adoption was even legal.

Answer 7

I think you need to contact the adoption agency, or have an attorney draw it up.

EDIT:  Once the child is 18 (legal adult) there is nothing preventing the father from seeking out that child.  The adoptive parent's have no more legal say over it.  I apologize for not fully understanding your question.  You don't need any documents at all.

Answer 8

At 18 the "child" is no longer a child, she/he is an adult - go ahead and make contact! Good luck, and personally, I think you should try to find your son/daughter - not the adoptive parents; adults don't need permission from other adults.