Would it be acceptable to "forgive" a debt as a Wedding gift? I do also plan to give a monetary gift ($50)?

Question

Roughly $25 would be the amount "forgiven" which would equal a total Wedding gift of almost $75. Would you suggest another way to "forgive" debt, other than verbally, IF you deem it acceptable?

Answer 1

I don't think it is a good idea.  If you were going to give them $75, just give them the $75.  This is their wedding day and they are going to be stressed out enough than to worry about not re-paying you for their $25 debt to you.  You don't want to make the situation uncomfortable on their big day.  Be a good friend, give the money and well wishes.  Then after they return from their honeymoon, call up your friend and tell them you want to hear about their trip, and since they owe you $25 anyway, lunch is on them.

Answer 2

I thinks that is acceptable. I would buy them a gift (or give the $50) and just mentally forget about the debt. I wouldnt say "and im forgiving you the $25 you owe me" to me that sounds really cheap, and kind of offensive. When they try to pay you back (if they do.. they may have forgotten) tell them then that you wont take it -it was part of their wedding gift.  

Answer 3

i dont see anything wrong with it. i wish my guests at my wedding each gave me $50 though... i was lucky if i got $20...

Answer 4

I think that's perfectly acceptable.  If you aren't comfortable mentioning it verbally then include a short sentence or two in their wedding card that goes with the gift.  

Answer 5

I think it is acceptable to forgive debt.  

I think you should include a handwritten note explaining that the debt is forgiven . . . and that you wish the couple much happiness always!

Answer 6

I think it's acceptable with the explanation in the card with the cash gift you're giving. It's one less debt for the couple after the wedding to worry about, and couldn't come at a better time.

Answer 7

I'm assuming that this is one of those "principles of the thing" and not just being overly frugal.  If its a frugality issue and the bride and groom know it they may retaliate by subtracting all the amenities you will receive during the celebration, to include drinks, give away favors, meal and desert, and possible a per capita percentage of the cost of the facility rental.  

Answer 8

sounds good to me.

Answer 9

Okay - $25 is not "debt" it's a favor.

I'd just go ahead and give $50, then when they go to repay you later just say "nope, that was part of your wedding gift."  And if they don't repay you, you won't hold a grudge because you know really, it's been paid.

And $50 is a suitable gift inof itself anyway.

But if you indicate tha the "debt is forgiven" it makes it sounds like you were annoyed it wasn't paid, and like I said, it's only $25.

Answer 10

I personally don't think its the time or the place to bring it up.  Just give them $50 and wait for them to give you the $25 back.

Its $25...I'm not even sure why this is a big deal

Answer 11

Well, if it was a more significant amount (like $100 of more) I think simply mentioning "and don't worry about the other stuff, it's fine/taken care of" would be a nice gesture on your friends wedding day.  But to me, forgiving a $25 "debt" seems kind of nit-picky.

The $50 cash gift is a very generous and acceptable wedding present on its own.  I wouldn't mention the $25 though, it makes you seem a bit cheap.

Answer 12

Seriously?

You're holding a friend/family member accountable for a lousy $25?

Wow.  Yes, it would definitely be acceptable to "forgive" the debt.

I guess I just think that if there is a friend/family member that is hard up enough to ask me for $25, then they need it more than I do.

Answer 13

Just tell them your wedding gift to he/she or both is to forget about the $25.00 you owe me. If it has been a while since they borrowed the money then let that be a lesson taught to them. They are going to have to pay bills on time and that means if they borrow money it should be paid back very soon. Such as next pay check. And it is no telling who else they may owe money too. Good Luck