After I and my ex-husband divorced, my ex-husband took my son, Andre who was 12 at the time with him without my permission. My husband took Andre with him to South Africa. I didn’t hear from him until he was fourteen. When I heard from him again, he says he was ok and he’ll be in touch with me again soon. I later learned he have provided fake info and claimed he was sixteen to get in the military.
I didn’t hear from him again for about a year. Next thing I know is, he deserted South Africa army and is living in Belgrade, Serbia. He didn’t really stay in touch for a while until a couple months ago, he finally start to stay in touch. We have been talking couple time a week for a while.
Andre have always liked photography and been doing it since he was a boy. He say when his father took him to Africa, he learned how to sell stock photography and saved up money until he moved out of South Africa. He has been working as an assistant for one of the most respected high fashion photographer in Serbia. He say he have a girlfriend who is 20 and living with him.
Andre also say he’s consider about go into paramilitary if he can continue do photography while being in paramilitary.
We have been in touch and even talked about having him coming here so we can see each other again. Since he’s still a child, he’s only sixteen and I don’t know if he has any education beyond middle school. I really want him to stay home so he can go back to school and be a child again, be with his sister and brother, and rest of the family, and so I can finish raising him. Also idea of him has already been in military and thinking about getting back into military at such young age is just scary to me.
But my finance says that it will never work and would be a bad idea to try to make him stay here. So I should let him go back after visiting unless he wants to stay.
I really don’t know what to do about this. I hope somebody can help out.
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