Would it be impolite to invite someone to the bridal shower but not the wedding?

Question

My Mom is planning my bridal shower and we were going over who all is going to be invited and she mentioned a couple of friends of hers she would like there but I don't have them on my guest list nor plan on inviting them to my wedding. So, is it ok to invite someone to the bridal shower and not the wedding? Thanks!

Answer 1

It is not okay to invite someone to your bridal shower and not to the wedding -- and your mother should not be planning your shower, either.  A distant relative, or a friend, or your maid of honor can plan a shower for you.

For more information, please look at this link for proper wedding and shower etiquette.

http://www.ourmarriage.com/html/wedding_...

Best wishes.

Answer 2

Is it ok?  NO.  Is it impolite, YES!

Answer 3

For the most part I would say yes it is Very rude to only invite someone to a bridal shower and not the wedding.  But on the other hand if you are having a very small wedding with only very close friends and family and people know this then you maybe able to get away with have other small parties that have more people then the ones coming to the wedding.

Hope this helps

Answer 4

A bridal shower is specifically for the purpose of giving the bride presents.  If you invite someone to the shower and not the wedding you are essentially saying, "Hey, you're good enough to buy me a gift, but not quite good enough for me to feed and entertain on my dime for an evening."

I know your mom wants her friends there, and that would be fine if this were a party for her.  But, it's not.  Thank your mom for thinking of you, then gently explain to her that you do not want her friends to feel at all like they are only there to bring you a gift and you would feel far more comfortable with having the shower be populated with future wedding guests only.

Answer 5

how rude!

Answer 6

It would be impolite to invite them to the shower but not the wedding. Honestly, I dont know why your mother needs HER friends there. I know she is Mother of the Bride, but if you arent close to them they should not really be there. Talk to your mother.

Answer 7

That would just be rude.  If you invite them to the shower, then you better invite them to the wedding  

Answer 8

I think its rude because to me its seems Kinda like:

Come to the bridal shower and bring me a gift! oh, and

by the way, your not invited to the wedding.

:) haha.

Answer 9

Etiquette wise, yes, it is considered rude.

However... it happened to me - b/c I had two surprise showers, so there wasn't much I could do to prevent it.

Answer 10

It's very rude to invite someone to a shower (to get gifts) and not the wedding.

Answer 11

Nope, not okay.

Answer 12

in general, it is rude. however, if your mum wants them there as company for her, then that would be ok.

Answer 13

I think it is rude as well. My mother in law threw a shower for me (which I begged her not too) and practically nobody there was invited to the shower. It was totally embarrassing.

A couple of your mom's close friends maybe, who are likely to understand but nobody else!