Would it be ok if my father came to my wedding even though he's been gone since I was 7?

Question

I just got in contact with my dad and he is willing to change and do everything that he can to be a better father. I forgive him and want him to be at my wedding. My uncle and mom has spoken to him and are giving him another chance to join family and not make that same mistake. They dont' hate him but hate what happened.My uncle said that my dad can come to my wedding. I am confused now. I was very close to my father, and don't want him to miss the best thing in his life.

Answer 1

I understand what a joy it is to have your father back in your life after all these years. However, invite him to your wedding and still concentrate on you and your fiancee. Don't change everything around for him, there is a chance of disappointment so you can be excited but until the wedding day anything an happen. If you get too involved and he leaves again then you will be hurt and not have a good wedding.

Answer 2

If everyone's okay with it, why are you asking this question?

Answer 3

Your wedding is YOUR day not your uncles or mothers.  It's not up to them if he comes or not it is about what you want.  I say have him come and the rest of your family will have to deal with it for a day of happiness for you.  If you dont you'll be miserable the rest of your life...

Answer 4

One simple truth:

It is YOUR wedding. Make it clear to everyone, in a respectful manner of course, that in the end it is your decision.

Invite him if you want him there and he wants to be there. :)

Answer 5

Invite him, his own behavior has been enough punishment. If you are serious about building a relationship with your father, this is an important step.

Answer 6

give the guy a chance