Would it be ok to find my father that's been gone since I was a child and try to make a relationship with him?

Question

I really want to get to know my dad, and be close to him, but it might take some time.I believe that it's ok, and he has already contacted me. I can't hate and I can forgive.

Answer 1

Then you answered your own question go for it but keep your guard up at first. People are capable of change.

Answer 2

It's perfectly okay to try, but do be prepared for some emotional moments, especially as you have a lot of time to make up for. It might not be the golden thing you would like, he might have other reasons for wanting to get in touch, you need to be prepared for some potentially nasty surprises also.

I'm not saying this WILL be the case, I'm just saying that until you know more about him and why he wants to be in touch with you, don't give too much away.  

Answer 3

That's beautiful. You have enough love in your heart for forgiving and loving. I hope you get to know him and he is a good man. If he turns out to be not what you had hoped than that's ok too because at least you did what your heart told you to do and you won't wonder any longer. Good luck.

Answer 4

yes it is fine  

Answer 5

By all means go for it... And when you are ready to really talk and open up to him then ask him what was so hard about staying and raising a child. Remember don't accuse him of leaving, but lovingly question him because imagine how hard it was to come back

Answer 6

i say thats cool but if i were u i would go in not expecting much so be prepared in case u arent satisfied with the relationship, this way if he lets u down again you'll be prepared and if the outcome is way better than you can only be happier.