Would it be weird to write a poem and have it read at my wedding?

Question

I have always loved writing and I have written several poems for my fiance, but I want to write one for him that he hasn't heard and have it read at our wedding. It will also be my wedding gift to him (he loves when I write poetry). Would this be a good idea or should I just find some other poem and have it read?

Answer 1

Absolutely not.  Speaking as someone who writes and enjoys poems (and is with someone just so), it is definitely a romantic idea.  You said he loves it when you write poetry, so that's a great indicator right there.  Some poems can be funny or cute when you add in some innocuous references, but now would not be the time to add them.  Even if the two of you are the only ones to 'get it' it could still make him feel awkward in front of all wedding attendees.

I would suggest (though you are certainly open to add or not add at your discretion) a reference to the first time he said 'I love you' or the first time you two realized how you knew you were with the one you'd marry.  There are a lot of memories and ideas you could easily work with, I'm certain.

But remember the most important thing - don't let it come just from your brain... the way I see it - that's the outlet used for putting your heart's thoughts into words.

And if it comes to it, and writer's block hits hard, don't be ashamed to look through poems until you find one that speaks to your heart much the same way that his heart speaks to yours!

And lest I forget something important, congratulations on your upcoming wedding and concentrate on enjoying the day with the man you love so much!

Answer 2

Sounds like a great idea! It is much more special since you wrote it. I'm not a poem guy but if my wife wrote something I would appreciate it very much. Congratulation!

Answer 3

omgg that so romanticc ;] i say write the poem and read it!

Answer 4

No, that's a lovely idea. Talk with your officiant about the best point during the ceremony to share your poem, or you could read it during the reception.

Answer 5

no, that's not weird at all. in fact that's really creative & can really show how much you love eachother. you should def. write your own, because it's much more personal.

you don't have to be an amazing writer or poet... just go with what you feel, you have some major inspiration : your soon to be husband & upcoming wedding...

just go for it! good luck & have a wonderful wedding.

Answer 6

I think this is a wonderful idea. Perhaps you can find a way to incorporate the poem into your wedding vows.

Lovely!

Answer 7

I didn't write a poem, but I found one that expressed the love and feelings that I have for him.  We had two readers, who got up and read poems, then after that and before the vows, I read that poem to him, made him cry! I started it saying that I found a poem....  so no one thought I wrote it..LOL.  I think you should read the poem!!

Answer 8

That would be beautiful.Straight from the heart.

Answer 9

It's your wedding.  You and your husband are the star and you aren't hurting anybody so go for it!

Answer 10

Not weird at all and a lovely idea

Answer 11

I think this is a wonderful idea. It would mean a lot to him.

Answer 12

I think that would be very romantic and touching! I would definately recommend writing your own!!

Answer 13

That's a awesome idea!! How romantic. Yes...go for it!! Write your own! It's so much more personal. It's like writting your own vows. That's what I want to do.