Would it be wrong for me not to go to my grandfather's funeral?

Question

A few days ago, my grandfather died. The funeral is schedule for Monday. The thing is, my first day of school is on Monday. I really do not want to miss the first day of school. My school hands out important things, the teachers explain how they grade, and other things like that. It will be too much of a hassle, and I'm be completely lost the next day. And before anyone starts having a fuss, I was not close to him at all. I only visited my grandparents on holidays. I don't feel that just because he was my grandfather, that I'm obligated to go. Plus, it should be my choice to go if I want to, right? I don't think it would be a big deal for me not to go. I'd rather go to school than see a person I knew dead. What kind of last memory would that be?

Is it wrong for me not to go?

Answer 1

Im sure you cared for your grandfather, I understand were you are coming from.

Funerals are closure for those still alive, if you feel you can deal with his death with out that closure I think its fine for you to miss it.

However! So people do know you care, sit down and write a very nice loving letter to your grandmother (don't call, write!) assuming she is still alive. Or ask your parents to take some flowers you picked out. Or both.

Answer 2

Very wrong if you do not attend.  It's about  Respect for your grandfather.  It's not an obligation that you have to attend, but rather a Privilege.This opportunity will never come again in your lifetime.

Answer 3

Yeah, it would be pretty bad for you not to attend.

It sounds a bit selfish if you ask me and I bet you are a "me" type of person to even think this.

When we allow ourselves to be a part of someone's passing we do it more for the ones that are there, living than for the one that passed.  Show the respect to your family they deserve.

The school will understand and so will your teachers.

Answer 4

You should go to school and see your hot boyfriend. n_n

Answer 5

Yes--it would be wrong not to go. Both of my grandfathers died before I was born--at least you knew yours.  Show your grandfather (and your parents) some respect.  I'm sure your teachers will understand.

Answer 6

Its not wrong but its kind of sad you can just think of the times you spent with him: )

Answer 7

um no it wouldnt be wrong...

Answer 8

hmm, well if i was in your situation i would go to the funeral and then ask the teachers what u missed on the 1st day of school

Answer 9

It may not be wrong of you to not go, but your whole outlook about the death of your grandfather is bad. I didnt know either of my grandfathers at all (they died when I was a baby), but now as an adult I wish I had. I just went to my aunts funeral recently who I have not been close to for years. I dont think it matters how close you were, but that you were family, and you are showing respect for that person and supporting the other members of your family by being there. Ultimatley the choice is yours (Im assuming) but you may end up regretting it later in life. There will be plenty of time to get the paperwork from the first day of school, etc, but there will never be another funeral for your grandfather.

Answer 10

One of your parents just lost their father - you're grandfather.  Go to the funeral to be supportive of them.  Don't be hassling them about it, either.  They don't need that from you or anyone right now.  Try to think how you'd feel if you lost your parent.  You'd be very upset.  They are, too.

Don't be frightened, it's not that bad.  You don't have to go look at the casket, you can stay in your seat.  It will be sad.  You need to face these things.

So don't whine about it, go to the funeral.  Don't even ask about not going.

I think you will have grown up quite a bit when you get back to school.  

Answer 11

You can get the papers when you do attend school. A funeral is to say good-bye, but you are mostly there for your family. Your parent who lost their dad needs you to be there even if they say you don't have to. You will have a first day of school next year too!