Would moving out be the best thing?

Question

I live with my aunt and uncle. I'm 18, I go to college, and I work. Today, she woke up and her day was already going bad. The babies were crying, my uncle with his stupid arguments, she doesn't have time for this or that...bla bla bla. Today, she started screaming at me about how I don't help around the house, which is a lie! Her day was going bad, why should she take it off on me. It's not my fault she has a miserable life. Yesterday, I had to mop the living room because HER kids left food there and ants were all over the place, I have to put away and wash the dishes when I come from work because she figures I don't do anything, I clean the bathroom and the kids trash it out when they take a shower, I clean my room and it doesn't last because I have to do other things around the house and I never get to my room. Today, was the last straw!!! She cannot be thinking that I'm always going to be there because I'm growing up, I want to go for a career, I'm working, and I have to focus on my future. I don't have a problem helping around the house, but it bothers me that she doesn't realize that I'm not always going to be there. I'm sick of her pointing at whatever I do wrong, but she never acknowledges when dinner is already done and she doens't have to cook, when the house is clean, when the kids are showered and I take care of them. Just because she had a miserable young life doesn't mean I have to go through it as well. Please help.

Answer 1

Your presence is adding to her unhappiness. If you can afford to move, you should do so ASAP.

Answer 2

Sounds like she wanted you there to help out with her chores and things.  Which is not what you need to be concerned with at this age.  My boyfriend is 19, and has a similar problem with his parents.  He is trying to stick it out, and it is not as extreme as yours seems to be.  I would leave.

Answer 3

It is time to move out.  Are you thinking about going to college?  If you are you need to go talk to the financial aid department at the college of your choice.  Explain your situation and the fact that you would like to live on your own or in college housing.  They will help you every step of the way.  You may qualify for grants that you don't have to pay back and financial aid loans that you do not pay back until you graduate and have a job.  This will get you out on your own and will be fantastic for your future.  Best of luck.

Answer 4

If you are capable and afford, better start living independently. Leave that lady to her destiny. Never try to change others, especially, senseless people. As the life is short on this earth, please enjoy your self by leaving the present unpleasant place. You are responsible for your life. Mind your business. Enjoy this short life on this earth. Live and let live. To live on this earth, as happily as possible, everyone should have common sense, logic & observation. Please decide your self now. All the best Dear.  

Answer 5

Are you contributing financially to her home or you just living there rent free?? You don't' sound like you are helping you sound like your a spoiled brat, go live on your own for a while and you will be the one screaming at your roomies to help out in the apartment!

Answer 6

Like you said, she was having a bad day. We all do and lash out at someone deserving or not. I'm sure she really does appreciate all the little things you do, just doesn't say it aloud. I don't think you should move out just to "teach her a lesson" or something, but when you can afford to and feel ready is when you should leave. Good luck :)