Would my abusive Ex-husband be abusive to his new wife?

Question

He and his present wife had a relation, for at least ten years, when we were married. She is two years younger than me. They got married a few days ago. I am just wondering if he is going to be nice to her always. My ex-husband, in general, always gets angry fast. He is rude, selfish, and underhanded. Many of his co-workers were complaining about him. But he manages to fool a lot of people. I don't think about him most of the time. Recently, I have been thinking about him, because he was not paying Child Support.

Answer 1

TO answer your ?, yes.

My ex beat me, took all of my $, used me like a slave and then blamed someone else when I left him.

But, he was not done with my family..yet. He  chased after and forced  himself on my sister like he did me..now he is doing to her and their 7 yr old son what he could not do to me. ( verbal, physical, sexual abuse)

I am sorry, for you and her. He will never change, only get worse... Her husband is called " the 2 faces of Steve."

Answer 2

1.  his co workers complain about him

2.  he is not paying child support

3.  he fools a lot of people

HE WILL MANAGE TO HURT AND BE ABUSIVE TO HIS NEW WIFE THE SAME WAY HE WAS WITH YOU.  AND SINCE THEY WERE HAVING THIS REALTIONSHIOP EVEN WHEN U R STILL MARRIED TO HIM, MADE HIM ALREADY LOST RESPECT TO THIS WOMAN IN THE FIRST PLACE.  YOU JUST WATCH AND WAIT FOR THE DAY HE IS MUCH WORSE THAN WITH U AND HIS CO WORKERS.

Answer 3

yeah unless he changes his character.

Answer 4

Thinking of the past is a waste of time.  Whether he i s going to be abusive or not, is not your problem.

Do something constructive, devise a way so that he pays child support every month.

good luck

Answer 5

ya and stay away from him and keep the kids away from him to

Answer 6

This is a good question, but I think you already know the answer.  You are/were not the cause of his anger, rudeness, etc.  He was/is. He may have grown up some, or attended anger management classes.  If so, good for him.  But that would not have erased your internal scars.  The one thing I can tell you for sure is; time will tell.  Best of luck to you.  You are obviously a smart woman.    

Answer 7

unless your ex husband has undergone some sort of anger management therapy for a long period of time, he's not bound to be any nicer to this new wife, no.

Answer 8

The best way to gage what is going to happen in the future is by a person's past history; although there are no guarantees. You just need to protect your children and yourself because you know what he is capable of.

Answer 9

My mother is going through these same feelings with my father.  My father cheated on my mother and he left us the day i turned 18 years old. (he didn't have to pay child support then)  they were married for 31 years.  The younger woman got pregnant and they have a son who is 11 now.  My dad is a wonderful father to him.  He has divorced his 2nd wife bec. she cheated on him and he has custody of the child.  My dad is like a totally different person now than when we grew up.  Mom often wonders and questions why he was not that way with us.  One reason was that he is an alcoholic and has since quit drinking.  he also realizes that he is the only person this kid has bec. the mom is a deadbeat.  I guess he finally learned from his mistakes, it's just a shame it took 11 years at the age of 62 to turn his life around.  I too am jealous sometimes even as an adult bec. I didn't have the dad that my half brother has.  I am 21 yrs. older than my half brother, he also has  a sis 25 yrs. older and a brother 28 yrs. older. So my dad is a single 62 year old father of an 11 yr. old!

Answer 10

Yes, abusers dont change.  

Answer 11

yea just give it time he will start beating her

Answer 12

errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr yea

Answer 13

I'd say the odds of him abusing his new wife are about 99%.  My first husband abused me, and when he remarried, he abused that wife too.  Now he's married to his third wife, and they're still together after about 15 years.  Maybe he's finally learned how to treat women, or maybe the third wife accepts abuse better than I did.  

Answer 14

All  my answers today sound very negative, but I have to say he probably will abuse her.  Old habits are hard to break without help, and his idea of marriage may mean dominating his wife, whoever it may be.

Answer 15

Frankly you shouldn't care and the good part is you don't have to care anymore,  have you started celebrating yet?

Answer 16

If the character of this person is abusive. He can just fake it for a while and shed his true colors in due time. Yes he will be abusive too with his new wife in due time.  

Answer 17

No, men like him will eventually show their true colors to who they're with. She was the mistress before so she got extra good treatment. Now they are married, she'll suffer your fate more or less. The key is how she handles it, some can ignore it and still be happy, most will end up low self-esteem and miserable.

Get that fools child support, go to court, take him to the cleaners girl!

Answer 18

Yes most likely he will be abusive to her.