Would people be after me in marriage?

Question

Please read EVERYTHING!! because you have to know what I am talking about here. I am going to become a doctor and i'm a very nice and caring guy. I never smoked in my life or drank or did any c**p like that. I am pretty smart and I would never act bad to anyone without a really legitimate reason. In my culture we are allowed to have arranged marriages. I am also wondering whether I should be worried about people asking me to marry.. especially within my relatives side. I don't have a girl friend and I probably don't plan to getting one or dating and everyone in my family and friends side knows this. My family and friends know that I didn't do anything bad and I am going to be pretty rich since I'm going to get married. Believe me in my family people get married very quickly without any unconditional love. My cousins got married and almost all the adults were married through... yes! arranged marriage you got it! Now you understand? Should I be cautious about countless marriage offers and what should I do???

Answer 1

To be honest, i don't know anyone who doesn't have parents who aren't after them for marriage. They only wants whats best for you and they always think they know better than you about whats best for you.

You should always be careful with these things because you don't want to end up miserable; if you really cant stand the person your set up with.

I am not part of a culture that believes in arranged marriages but sometimes i think that  they might be better considering the divorce rates from  places where they don't practice arranged marriages; but each type of marriage has its pros and cons either way you should always be careful and make sure that if you make your intentions clear with everyone and that that is what you want for yourself. Always follow your instincts..

If you want to get married yet let them know. You should get married only when you are ready to make that kind of commitment; no matter how you do it.

Also if you decide to be part of an arranged marriage try to find someone who has similar interest as you do, so that your not always bumping heads as well as someone who respects you and who you respect and understand.

Good luck and i hope this helps.

Answer 2

you should be true to yourself. who you marry should be YOUR choice.. whats love if its not unconditional? however, do not hesitate to give someone who may not be of your culture a chance to get to know you better. You may miss the woman of your dreams.. Good Luck  

Answer 3

I have no idea what you're talking about.

Answer 4

Hi there, you must be indian. I dated and was engaged to an indian guy.

I'm sure alot of these marriage offers are going to be just because you are a nice guy and you are going to be a doctor, but thats what you want right? To find a girl who wants to be married to a doctor, but in this day and age, there are alot of *female indian doctors. My dentist is Indian. I would look for someone who is doing something also, maybe she's an accountant, or a lawyer, or a doctor also.

Answer 5

Yes, you should be cautious of any marriage offer you get....

In short.. Arranged marriages are from an age long passed.  Go out and find yourself someone who you will fall in love with.... Not something who your parents falls in love with.  There is a huge difference, by the way..  And Yes, I know exactly what I am talking about...

Good Luck and I Hope this Helps

Answer 6

Ignore the arranged marriage proposals and marry some one you love when you want to.

It's your life, enjoy it.  

Answer 7

Make sure those women are not after your money, because A LOT of women are. Date, have fun, why rush marriage? When you meet the right girl, you won't need to ask this question.

Answer 8

Let me make sure I understand. You are saying that you are getting countless marriage offers from women? or from families trying to arrange a marriage? If you are worried that too many women are going to be throwing themselves at your feet, I would rest assured that you will be fine. Generally women in this culture do NOT ask men to marry. In fact it is VERY uncommon. Also I'm sure your a very nice and successful guy too, but you don't exactly sound like a wild and crazy womanizing bachelor...no offense. If you are worried about families throwing their daughters at you, let your family deal with the arrangements. Isn't that what an arranged marriage is anyway?

Answer 9

try testing the waters of dating go out and date a few ppl...what if the person you are arranged with is not your type?  

Answer 10

I understand you predicament very well as I have many good friends from another culture who practice arranged marriages.

YES, you should be concerned as you will be considered a good catch ie: high respected position within the community, making a high salary and the ability to look after your wife and all the children she wants to have which means the grandchildren (wife side). If you family has already demonstrated marrying off early, you have to be careful as the suiters (fathers of brides to be) will come a knocking.

What should you do? you should have a plan in place with the same story in that you are putting all your energies towards your professional career and have no time to start a marriage for years. You probably live in a small community and whatever story you give, make sure it's the same for everyone as word gets around.

If you're not ready to get married because of the professional career, don't!

Good luck