Would people be that shallow that they wouldnt be my friend becusase I'm pudgy

Question

My mom says the main reason I have no friends is becuase I'm obese

Are people really that shallow?

Answer 1

Some people are that shallow, yes. However, they don't make good friends either. Those types of people are immature and selfish. If you don't benefit their "image" or "reputation" they don't see value in being your friend. The good news... that drama pretty much disappears after high school.

The real reason you may not have many friends is that you are self-conscious about your weight and come across as insecure or lacking self esteem (especially since your mom nags you about it). The easiest way to make friends is self disclosure. By trusting others and revealing your true self, they are more likely to trust you. Conversely, by hiding your true self and putting up a wall, others are likely to avoid you. Just reach out and say hi to someone who might need a friend.

More good news: Research shows that for one's mental health and self esteem, you don't need a lot of friends... just one or two good ones. Thats all.

I am chubby too (bmi of 36). Your weight is temporary and should only concern you (not your mother). When the time is right, and if you want to, you will loose the weight. In the meantime, you have everything that thin people have to be a valued as a friend. If anything, you have more empathy for others who struggle. That will make you a great friend.

On a side note, your mom is wrong and is probably just trying to encourage you to loose weight. This world is cruel and truthfully people respond to thinness. Your mom is aware of this but her attempt to encourage you to loose weight will only backfire by causing you stress.  When you want to, you will loose it. No magic, no pills, just you will make it happen.

My time hasn't quite come yet, but it will. I have no doubt and neither should you.

Answer 2

If that is the case,you wouldn't want to hang out with them, would you? You are way to good for them. Remember that.

Answer 3

wow that pisses me off. I'm sorry.  I'd totally be your friend without thinking about pudge.  

Answer 4

Okay let me find the proper way to say this....my best friend ever is a very big girl. She is very pretty and takes care of herself. She dresses appropriately for her size as well. A lot of obese people don't. Some have a bad smell due to lack of hygiene,or dress like they are a size 2. I can't see myself hanging out with anyone who had body odor whether they were big or small. If someone doesn't like you simply because your plus size then forget about them. Just be sure its not because of any other reasons like the 2 I mentioned. I'm not at all implying you are like that,I'm just saying......you'll find real friends and those are the ones worth keeping. Remember,when you see those mean skinny girls 15 years from now,you'll have lost the weight and they will all be big...what goes around,comes around