Would this be a bad idea?

Question

First of all we've been friends for 4years(in person! so I know him face to face). He is hard to freak/creep out. I am 23 he's 28. Let me know what the following email implies and if it's a bad idea.

"Hey I got a couple of questions for you because I want to clarify things and get a better understanding of you. First of all I love the way things are between us now. Don't let that change please.

Anyway it seems like that ever since you came back you have treated me like more of a friend and a sister. And treated me like everyone else. I am wondering if you've always treated me this way or it's because I emailed you a year ago saying I''m tired of your mixed signals either admit your feelings or treat me like everyone else'? Just curious. Again I like the way things are right now.

Since I respect and honor you I want to clarify a boundary. I don't mean to bring up the past but you said you didn't like kisses. Which is fine but how you responded and what you did made me doubt it. Were you serious when you said you don't like kisses? Even if you get a girlfriend you still won't want to kiss her? That's what I mean. Now that's fine you don't like it I just want to clarify what you mean since I have so much respect for you. No I do not plan to kiss you again. Let me be honest. I don't like kisses either well only on the lips because everytime I get kissed they shove their tongues down my throat. I lied out of nervousness when I said I didn't mean to kiss you. I did. As a FRIEND. I do that to all my guy friends but after your response I freaked and I don't do that anymore. For a guy who said he didn't like kisses it didn't add up because if you didn't you wouldn't have blushed and smiled so big like you did. Right before you left when we hugged I was scared YOU were gonna kiss me that's why I froze. So let me clarify MY boundary. Kisses on the cheek or hand is ok(tells me we're friends) but I don't like kisses on the lips unless you want to be my boyfriend. So again I just want to clarify what you mean is all. Take care!"

What does this imply and what should I leave out? why?

Answer 1

It sounds ok me but honestly im a dude and if I liked you I would have made a move for you faster then 4 years!!!!! If he hasn't attempted 4 u to be his gf in 4 years then he probley dosnt like you like that. Good luck just talk to him a nd be honest about how you feel

Answer 2

I would ditch the whole thing.  It sounds like something a high schooler would write.  It sounds like you want to know if he's interested and that you're not sure if you are  interested or not, cause you say you like the way things are now, but then you also mention him being your boyfriend if he wants to be a few times....So here's my suggestion....Walk up to him Face to Face, Say "I like the way things are right now.  I was wondering, is there a chance of things going a different way in the future?"  cause that's what you're really wanting to know.  And if you like to kiss don't change that for some guy.  He'll give you a straight forward answer if you approach it that way.

Answer 3

Whoa! I think you need to let him kiss you!  Talk to him face to face please do not email him!  Talk to him about and stay focused on the present, not how it was in the past. He is older than you, you need to show him you are mature enough to talk something as important as this out.

     But the boundary you are setting for yourself is the most refreshing thing I have read on this answer ever! You are a cool chick.