Would this be inviting myself over?

Question

We have this really good friend that housesits for this wealthy couple every summer. The owners of the house said that he could invite anyone over that he wanted, as long as they didn't trash the house, and they cleaned up after themselves, etc. Last summer we went over there and had a cookout and used their pool and pretty much had a great time. Our friend told us that we'd have to do this every year. He mentioned it again this past winter that he couldn't wait til summer when he housesat again and we can all go swimming again. Well I found out yesterday that he's housesitting again, and I've been wanting to go swimming all summer and haven't yet. Should I wait for our friend to invite us or can we just show up? I want to go over there soooo bad but my husband says we should wait until he calls us. I don't want to sit around the house all day today waiting for him to "maybe" call us. Is there a polite way for us to call him and invite ourselves over? or hint around ?

Answer 1

Why dont you call them and ask if you can come over? Or you could just show up if they said you can come every year. But i'd rather call them.

Answer 2

for hinting around, you could call him, ask how hes going, and say you want to catch up again. ask how the house sitting is going. if he says great say something like -"yea i can imagine! that cookout last summer was fantastic. ..we should do it again sometime, especially since youre in the house! we would love to come over again and keep you company in the house."

and if he's really positive about that then you could hint at when you could do this.or you could just flat out ask - its not his house so you wouldnt be intruding on his personal life as much as if it were his house. and you said he was a really good friend which means its alright to just invite yourself sometimes

Answer 3

You may not just show up.  That would be extremely rude.

Anything that involves inviting yourselves over would be rude.

If I were your really good friend, I would appreciate you asking me directly (but nicely), and not try to manipulate me or "hint around."