Would this be irresponsible parenting?

Question

I consider myself a VERY responsible parent!

I am a mother of 2, a 3 1/2 year old girl and a 11 month old baby boy..

My husband were wondering how responsible it would be to..

After the kiddo's are in bed 9pm to go across the street and watch a movie with our friends ( OBVIOUSLY we would take the baby monitor, they kids sleep in the same room, and lock the door when we left) My husband and I agreed to walk over every ten minutes, and like I said, it is across the street and from their living room we can see the kids room in full view.)

Incase anyone wants to know, NO! There is no drinking involved...

and we can't watch the movie over hear becasue it is downloaded on our friend's computer?

So- does this seem irresponsible? Would you do it?

Answer 1

WOW - I can't believe that a parent would really ask such a question.  I would never leave my children at home alone for anything.  I feel guilty if I take out the garbage while they are in the apartment sleeping.  I will spend time outside with friends only 4 feet from my children's bedroom window and I still go in every little bit to check  on them.

Answer 2

No. You have too many young children, and it is irresponsible to put your childrens' life in danger for a night of entertainment.  

Answer 3

NO, it is very irresponsible. Ever heard of the Maddie Mcain dissapearance? If you did this i would hope someone would dob u in to cps. Maddie mcain was a little 4 year old girl whose parents were staying in a resort in spain, they went down to the restaraunt in the resort to have dinner and left maddie and twin 18month old twins asleep in there resort room with the door locked. They went and checked on them every 30 mins. One time when they checked, young maddie was gone, kidnapped!! That was about 2 years ago now i think and she hasn't been seen since. Sure if you don't love your children go right ahead and leave them. If you are even seriously considering this then i am sorry but you need not have had children

Answer 4

I think these ppl are over reacting if you have your baby monitor and it works clearly at that distance I would say its fine its not like your goin out to the movies you are right across the street

I wonder if these ppl even let their kids go outside or if they lock them in a cage so nothing can ever happen

Answer 5

Your own entertainment should be kept aside for awhile, your kids are too small to leave them alone in the house, even if you will be just near by and would feel secure that anytime you can run back. At least one of you should stay with kids.

As a mother you are the one who cares after the kids 24x7. If you want to relax and have some fun with your friends, ask your husband to sit with the kids. Grandparents are a great help in these situations, they can sit with the kids while you and your husband are out for some time.

If there is no one else in the house, there is a no-no for you to leave your kids like that!

Good luck!

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Answer 6

it just seems silly..walking over every ten minutes? then y bother watching the movie at all? just get a dif movie and have ur friends come over your house.

Answer 7

Yes, it seems irresponsible to me.  What if someone were to break in when you weren't watching.  It only takes a moment for something awful to happen and you would never forgive yourself.  How much fun is a movie if you have to get up every ten minutes anyway? Might as well just rent it and watch it at your house.  Or would it be possible to carry the kids across the street once they're asleep and have them sleep there while you watch the movie?

Answer 8

I personally wouldn't do it but I wouldn't consider it irresponsible either if others did, especially if everything is locked up and you have a device (baby monitor) to hear the children while you are in FULL VIEW of them (somewhat). And like you said there is no alcohol involved and one of you are going to go over there every ten minutes and check on them and that is more than most parents do at night in the same household.  If you stick to the every ten minutes, carry the baby monitor and have the bedroom in full view and not drink or do anything else that will distract you then I think it would be fine.  I wouldn't make a habit out of it though and I would consider getting one of those baby monitors with screens.  

Answer 9

I don't think it's wise. What if there was a fire or one of your children started choking or had a medical crisis? Even with a baby monitor, you might not get back in time. Intruders into your home are not the only dangers to young children. They really shouldn't be left unattended.

Why not just have a movie night at your own house? I can't imagine it would be much fun to watch if you're leaving to go home every ten minutes anyway. Or, alternatively, hire a babysitter, and enjoy your evening without worries about what's going on at home.

I'm not saying you're a bad parent, I just don't think you're completely thinking this through. I don't think you should leave small children unattended like that. When they're older, this would be fine, but I think your kids are just too young now.

Answer 10

i live in a 8 house military complex. we always have outings EVERY weekend at someones houses, its all walking distances, and we all have kids ranging from 6 to 9 months. and we always put our children to bed around 9:00 and then we continue to hang out and have a good time. we bring our baby monitors and still check on them often.

None of us would ever think what you are doing is irresponsible.

Answer 11

totally irresponsible.  Isn't that exactly how that couple vacationing in europe lost their little girl? they were eating dinner and left her in the hotel room and then she was gone.  

i mean maybe nothing will happen but still.. what if something DID happen.. how would u live with yourself... and an 11 month old? i can't leave the room without being paranoid about her. that is way to young to be left alone in a house.

if you are even asking this then u have a gut feeling it isn't right.. i would go with it!

Answer 12

If it was my own children I would be uncomfortable. Why not watch the movie at your house? It's never a good idea to leave children that small in a house alone.

Answer 13

no, i would never leave a 3 1/2 year old and an 11 month old alone in the house. a 3 year old can wake up and get into something so quickly, and by the time you get back, it may be too late. it's just a bad idea! sorry, i would just download the movie on your computer or rent it later!

Answer 14

I wonder whats more important. The movie or the kids?

Y not take turns to watch or copy it and watch it in the comfort of home.