Would this be tacky?

Question

My MOH(and bestfriend) and I were talking last night and she said "Since your having a baby and then getting married less then two months later, maybe we should have a Wedding Shower/Baby Shower combined? All of the people we talked about inviting to the wedding shower are in the baby shower list." And I said "That's a great idea!" My bridesmaids loved the idea too. But when I told my mom she said "That's really tacky. You should have seperate showers."

What do you think? They wouldn't be expected to bring a gift for each thing, but they could if they wanted.

Should I have combined showers, or just have seperate showers.

Thanks!

Answer 1

If I’m going to be invited to both anyway, I’d much rather attend one dual purpose shower than two different ones, especially considering how nuts weekends are around holidays when people are rushing all over trying to make different family commitments.  

Answer 2

I think it's tacky to have two separate showers and expect your guests to buy you lots of gifts. Go with your instincts and have one combined shower.

Answer 3

I would MUCH rather go to a combined shower than two separate showers, particularly if both are so close to Christmas.  I don't see why it would be tacky -- you're not breaching any rules of etiquette that I can think of.  Your best friend is really sweet.  Congrats on both your wedding and your baby.

Answer 4

I don't think that's 'tacky' at all.  I mean, if the same people were invited to two different showers, I'd actually think that was a little more tacky.  Only because then they would feel obligated to bring two different gifts, because of the two different parties.  I think it's actually a nicer way to do it!  

Answer 5

I agree that it would be extreamly tacky to have 2 showers.  I wouldn't go to either shower if I was invited to 2 different ones by the same person in a close time to one another.  I would think it's greedy and so would all of my friends.  Besides nobody really likes showers anyway, they waste a whole weekend since you have to be home to attend.  

Answer 6

Have two different ones. That way the bridal shower can be all about the wedding and the baby shower can be all about the little one. :)

Answer 7

If I were you, I would have a combined shower. I think it would be tacky to have two showers so close together, you know? Then it REALLY looks like you're just fishing for gifts. I'm sure you know that already, though.

I think you're totally right and that your mom should just deal with it. Start a SMALL baby registry and whoever is hosting the shower can tell guests that if they wish to get you a gift, they can pick from either registry, or small items from both.

Great idea.

Answer 8

i say you should have 1 shower and just register at one place for the baby and a different place for your wedding so people know to get you 2 gifts. i know as a guest, i would rather attend the 1 shower instead of attending 2. it makes more sense to do it that way!

Answer 9

Well, since you are having a baby before getting married, I wouldn't worry too much about it. If your bridesmaids are okay with it, I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 10

have separate ones because then You'll get more gifts :D and its just a better way to spend ur life i guess. U shouldn't have gotten pregnant b4 u got married though. He could leave u at any second now and u could do nothing about it, but whatever. but yes i do think its a lil tacky,but u do wat u want not that i have anything AGAINST it just i think u should do two separate ones! good luck and live happily!  

Answer 11

I think one combined shower is a better idea than two seperate ones. Its easier for you or your MOH to organise just one and its also easier on the guests to come to one. I think it'd be a lot more fun to have it combined into one special day and it also gives guests  choice of bringing one gift or two, which would be a good idea if someone can't afford two gifts so close together, especially around Christmas time. If your mum objects perhaps you could allocate an hour to baby stuff and another hour to just wedding stuff as a compromise.