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Would this count as child abuse?

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I live with my grandparents but they are my legal parents. Today they let my cousin and my best friend come over. When my cousin left I let my boyfriend come over because they wouldnt let all three of them they said that was too many. But my grandma said if I sent one home then my bf could come over but apparently my cousin didnt count as the one to send home... Basically my parents wont let both my best friend and my boyfriend over but they will let my cousin and best friend. They say my bff and bf is too many kids. Also, when my bff was hungry I tried to feed her Ramen because no one eats it and they yelled at me saying we had already eaten ( but it was about 4 hours after we ate. We are all about 16 ) and I couldnt feed her. They never told me why they just said "because". Then I just stood in the doorway to the kitchen with my bf, staring out the window and my gpa said that everyone had to go home and started screaming and wouldnt let me out of my room or tell anyone good bye

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No, it most definitely isn't. It's just parents being ridiculous.
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No. They may be overly jumpy but it's not child abuse. But I do agree with them on the point that you don't need to feed the whole neighborhood. If bff was hungry then she should go home to eat.

I'm guessing there is more to this story though...
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no
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ha ha no...it may not be fun but its apart of life.

get it out of your head that its child abuse...its your family doing the best they can...
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No it isn't child abuse. Stop whining just because you don't get your way. Your grandparents aren't obligated to host anyone, it's their house. Just because they didn't let your friends freeload.... quit yer b*tchin', get your own house and make your own money to feed your friends.
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No, it is not child abuse. It is parent control. But giving your bff Ramen is hospitality and that I encourage. Having your bf over is a "no-no" to me, especially in your room. I'd chase him home. That's disrespect to my home. Don't whine!
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It's certainly not very kind behaviour, but adults sometimes get stressed and make mistakes.

When everything is calmer in a day or two, try explaining how upset you were about it all, and ask them why things happened as they did.

Make it clear that you are going to listen in a mature way to any concerns that they had and say how you appreciate them discussing it with you. Good luck.
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No, it is not child abuse. It is inconvenient and I know you think it is unfair, but it is their house and they get to make the rules. Sounds like they are pretty strict and old-fashioned, but there isn't really anything you can do about that. They aren't doing anything to actually hurt you. Besides, you certainly don't want to be taken away from them, become a ward of the state and get put in some home. That would be much worse.
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It's not child abuse. Maybe they are short on money since our economy is bad and food is expensive. Older people worry more about things like this as they have lived through tough times. I would try to talk to them about it and explain your friends medical situation. Grandparents can be harsh. I don't live with mine but everytime I visit my grandma has to talk about my weight and how much I eat. She eats like a bird.
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You're an ungrateful child and could use a little real abuse. Kids like you make me sick, think that the world is handed to you on a silver platter. If your grandparents don't want tons of people in their house, you have to get over it. And you friends can eat their own food, you don't have to feed them.
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Not abuse.Have you thought that maybe they are old and tired and don't feel like dealing with a house full of kids.Give them some respect for taking care of you.GOD-bless
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I'm sorry honey it's not.......you should try sitting them down and talking to them like an adult no yelling or being smart just tell them where you are coming from in a clear way get your thoughts together before you do it write them down and think of what they might say back to you so you'll know exactly what you can say back......but remember be respectful even if they are not toward you.....this is cheesy but you catch more flies with honey than vinegar........i hope this helps!!
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No, your Granparants are just Too old to deal with Babysitting kids. They don't have the Patience for it. Not even you guys.
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No, this isn't child abuse at all. What it is is that you and your grandparents have a difference of opinion on what counts as legitimate guests and how much food can be consumed by them. Teenagers eat a lot and maybe your grandparents cannot afford to feed everyone. As for your bf going to your room, not in my house either.
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No it's not. Maybe you should get a job and start buying your own food to avoid them getting mad.....I hate when I grocery shop for my kids and hubby and other people come over and eat all my food. I think your grandfather took it a little too far, but no it's not child abuse
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not child abuse.
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Sorry dear, this is definitely not child abuse.

Parents, especially with today's economy, are feeling more and more stress regarding providing the essentials such as food, shelter, etc . . . . and they probably just don't want you to get into the habit of 'feeding your friends' all the time, because that can become expensive :-(.   Although i don't necessarily agree with some of the things your 'parents' did and said, no one is 'born' - a perfect parent.

Your responsibility is to listen to your parents, and try to understand where they're coming from, despite your disagreement, and perhaps when things are calm around the house, approach your parents in a very non-confrontational way about how this particular 'issue' was handled, and maybe ask if they can share their "ground rules" for 'feeding friends', and get the whole 'how many over' issue finalized so that you know the deal, and they can have confidence that you know, and that they can trust you to understand and follow :-).
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No its not child abuse it just sounds like your grandpaents are old and cranky. as for the way she is yelling at you and sending you to your room like that i think its VERY inapropriate for your age. and yes it is respectful to offer your guest food and drink. you just really need to talk to them or figure out if there is somwhere else you can go because at 16 your old enough to make that desicion legally

and that is very embarressing to go through that infront of ur bff and bf im sorry!

good luck
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Nope, this is just called parenting. You may not like their decisions but that's the way it goes. Hey, at least you are allowed to have your boyfriend over - some parents wouldn't allow that.

Good luck to you.
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Sorry honey-this isnt child abuse....this is just part of being a kid. You should get the child abuse idea out of your head-especially if you are thinking about turning your grandparents in.
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