Would this have p*ss*d you off?

Question

My husband and I haven't been for a night out in about 8 months. Two weeks ago some friends from America came to London and I told my husband that I would really like to go out with them for a night out ( I think I like them more than he does). So he said that he would arrange some tickets for a show and book a table for a resturant. I sorted out the babysitter etc. Last night he hadn't sorted out any tickets or booked a table and all the good places to go were booked up because it was a Friday night. Then he didn't want to drive 3 miles to meet our friends, so we didn't see them. So we went out anyway, and I managed to get us some tickets for a really lovely club, but he refused to put on some smart/ casual clothes and when we got there we were refused entry. We have a large gap in age (20 years) and for me going out with my partner, meeting friends etc is important. Would you have been pissed off?

Answer 1

  i would of been pissed off but mostly  , i would been hurt  

Answer 2

h**l yeah, he shouldn't have had you thinking he was down for it, if he didnt want to go, all he had to say was no

Answer 3

Hes a selfish pig.

Answer 4

oh yes ! ask him what problem is , before its to late  

Answer 5

Yes it definately would have. Next time I suggest you organise the night yourself and then when the time comes he can choose to come or not, you go out and have some fun regardless.

There are many times I can't be bothered doing things that my partner wants to , but I do it because I love him and I know he'd do the same for me. On this point age is irrelevant. You've stayed in for 8 months for him, he can spend one night out for you.

You start going out and enjoying yourself without him he'll soon start making an effort.

Answer 6

He's deliberately sabotaging your social life. I think counselling is in order.

Answer 7

Yes I would have been upset also, but you have to also take into consideration that there is a big age difference and right now you are at a peak in your life that he has already lived

Answer 8

Yes.

There are some issues here you need to sort out or you wont have a marriage will you?

Answer 9

big time - he should have considered what you wanted to do.

Answer 10

I'd sit him down and have a very frank discussion about this, otherwise get ready to spend the next twenty years chewing tobacco and watching matlock re-runs

Answer 11

well the reason is your huge age gap.

you are young,trendy,nightlife loving while he is a bit on the slower side.and men are usually careless abt their wife,s side work.you got two choices,either you need to sacrifice your intersts or sacrifice him.

Answer 12

sounds like you two need to sit down and have a long talk

Answer 13

There are some period in life when you don't want to go out anymore,

maybe he just prefer relax at home, watching tv with his lovely wife.

Since you had friend come over from America and you haven't been out

for 8 months, I think he could have make an effort, but maybe he felt forced to go to place he don't like and to have to dress up, I can understand that because I don't like to dress up myself, you should have a talk with him and see if he would prefer to go to some place more casual and tell him that it is important for you to go out from time to time, if he doesn't go out himself maybe you should go out see some friends by yourself, anyway you should have a talk with him to see why he did not plan the night out as he told you and why he does not want to go out.

Answer 14

Yes. It would have p----- me off. Next time go without him and see how he likes it.

Answer 15

no

Answer 16

He sounds like he is making a point! I think you are right about him not liking the friends. I would be ticked off, and quite rightly so, a relationship is all about give and take, he should be able to give a little, especially in these circumstances!

Answer 17

yep. very.  

Answer 18

VERY!!!! Mine's 15 years older than me and he knows when I want to party it'd better be party time for him too!

About 2 weeks ago some friends who moved away from the area came to stay near us and get together with all their old friends. He really didn't fancy going out on the "pub crawl" with us all, but you know what he did - got dressed up for the occasion, drove to the first pub, had a coke, ferried us all on to the second pub, had another coke, then said if we didn't mind he would go home for an hour and make sure the dogs were ok, but if we needed a lift, just to ring him. I rang him when we went for pizza and he came and joined us then stopped until I wanted a lift home. Tell your other half there are ways of "opting out" without spoiling it for everyone else. Kick his butt!

Answer 19

Yes. That was very inconsiderate of him. He probably did it on purpose.