Would this make you mad?

Question

i sent a really dear friend flowers because she has been really sad and feeling sick.she said it made her mad...why would this make anyone mad? what do you guys think? before you say ask her...she wont talk about it...

Answer 1

Maybe she expected you to show up instead of just sending flowers ... ?  Maybe you should try to make an appearance and tell her how concerned you are about her.

Answer 2

~~~I had a similar thing happen once and it makes you feel terrible. You're trying to do a thoughtful thing and get slammed for it. I think you just got to overlook it cause obviously they aren't thinking as they normally would. Ya just have to feel good yourself for trying. Hope she comes around soon, I just would not take it personal.~~~

Answer 3

it made her mad?  Because it called attention to her illness?  Sounds like she is in a major depression and needs professional help. If she won't go though, there's nothing you can do to make her.  Offer to go with her, sit in the lobby and wait for her or even go in the office with her.  Just taking that first step is the hardest for almost everyone I know.

Answer 4

Sure, some people prefer to deal with their problems without distractions no matter how nice it is. Join us "Be Good" If it was I , I would tell you thanks and then throw it in the trash.

Answer 5

maybe she thought that flowers we'rent enough.But i dont c why you would b "mad"

Answer 6

Ohkaaaaaay, well you can't please some of the people all the time.

Next time she's sad and sick, ask her what you can do for her and if she says nothing , do that.

Answer 7

Some people don't like to be pitied. I know you weren't pitying her, but she may have felt like you were patronizing her.

Answer 8

Anyone who reacts with anger towards an obvious act of friendship and concern such as sending flowers is simply looking to lash out.

I suggest you convey a "brief" message either in person or written - which conveys your concern for her well-being and your regrets for any misinterpretation of your gift's intention.

Then let it lie. It is her turn to apologize for such an outburst at the mere gift of flowers. (unless there is more than you are telling us about the "cause" for her being sad and sick)

Good Luck

Answer 9

Just tell her you sent her flowers because you wanted to cheer her up and was going to come see her sometime in the week. I don't get why she would be upset over it though

Answer 10

I would just let it alone for now. If she's as upset as you say, then she probably doesn't even realize how rude she is being. How well do you know her? Maybe getting flowers reminds her of something sad. Or maybe she's too stubborn to accept anyone's concern, trying to work everything out herself. Or too proud to admit she needs a shoulder. Women are tough to figure, I know. I am one. lol

Answer 11

i'm not sure..........

Answer 12

Sounds like she's having a dramatic moment, best leave her alone for a few weeks. You know your intentions were honorable she is the one who is being rude and unreasonable, just let her be for now.