Would this offend you?

Question

we are planning a wedding between about 1pm and 5pm and we wanted to just have vegetable trays and sandwiches (also cake). the sandwiches were going to be like 6ft-ers cut into 3in pieces. i want to word this on this invitation so people dont expect a meal... any suggestions?

by the way does it make it more tacky (if at all) that we are inviting around 100 people? would this offend you?

***almost none from out of town (like 94%) live here

we were planning on having a semi formal wedding party. no jackets or long dresses but still dressed nice. i was gonna wear a knee length ivory summer dress type of dress... it was gonna be in a church hall.

the sandwiches come cut already into little squares and we were going to stack them decoratively on different trays with tooth picks in them. no one will know where they are from. does that change anything?

Answer 1

It wouldn't offend me. Just tell the preist to let people know that there will be some finger food after the ceromony, and if they (guest) would like to have a bite to eat with the bride and groom.

Answer 2

Check an ettiquette book for the best wording, but just put a note in the invitation.  And best of luck to you.  It's great to be in love.

Answer 3

Different people have different budgets.  People understand that times are hard today.

Just make it clear on your invitations what the wedding entails.  If someone knows up front what to expect they can always refuse to come.  If they are there they shouldn't be thinking of anything but taking part in the joy of your happy celebration.

No I would not be offended.

Answer 4

just state a light meal will be served I like it better then eating prime rib or something that isn't cooked to my liking anyway the sandwhiches are better

Congrats to you and yours

Answer 5

Erin it totally on - it is YOUR wedding.  You do it exactly the way you would like.  On the invitation say something like 'please join us for a light meal after the ceremony'. I think it's wonderful to have a wedding like this.  People who spend thousands just make me shake my head in wonder.  Good for you!

Answer 6

It's not offensive, just put "Light meal will be served" on the invitation.

Answer 7

Eh, it is food.  Making a mention of a light meal is a good idea so people can eat plenty beforehand or plan to go out to dinner later.  Make sure you plan for enough food though.  1-5 PM, people can still be quite hungry.  YOU may want them to eat light, but come 4 PM, I'd probably load my plate up.  Also, remember that there may be vegetarians coming to your wedding.  Get a few vegetarian sandwiches.  (Please don't let the deli load them up with c**p though.  Just because we don't eat meat doesn't mean we like to have a garden complete with black olives in our sandwich.)

Answer 8

it's your wedding nothing is not correct unless you say it is!!!

you may want to address the invite as casual not so formal!  or just list simi formal!

Appizister will be served!  

sounds yummy!  

see i'm having my family make my food doing a hawian theme buffet!!

Yummy!

cheaper too!

well minus the pig!!

Answer 9

yes

Answer 10

I don't find that in any way offensive.  As a matter of fact I got married 3 weeks ago and thats exactly what we did.  We got the sandwich platters from Subway and got a variety of kinds, we also ad the little bags of chips.  Everyone loved them bc it was so hot out side a sandwich worked perfectly!  Just word something on the invite like "A light dinner will be served at the reception".   Good luck to you and best wishes.....

*note* If you put this question into the weddings category you're alot more likely to get more responses.

Answer 11

I would put on the invitation that the ceremony will be semi formal and the reception will be in the church hall at __ p.m.

Refreshments and light meal will be served.

That kind of wording lets the invitees know that it will not be a huge deal.

Honestly, I find it refreshing that you have chosen NOT to go into debt for your wedding. You pay for years afterwards and for what? Some spectacle that only lasts 6 hours?

My husband and I didn't have to go into debt to have our wedding. We worked within our budget and had a wonderful honeymoon.

Best to you.

Answer 12

It's YOUR wedding, so do what you'd like to do.  I would make a note on the invitations staing it's an informal wedding with finger foods avaiable.

Answer 13

No I wouldn't be offended. Just describe your wedding as a relaxed  casual but dressy attire affair with a light refreshments served later.

Answer 14

There is nothing offensive about your plans. Just make it clear on the invitations that a light meal will be served.

Answer 15

well just put on the invitations that you are not going to eat very heavy foods just put something like serving: finger sandwitches or whatever you will be serving