Would this upset you too?

Question

I've wanted to enroll in college for a while but after having my baby I had to delay it. Now she's getting a bit older and I just found out I can take online college. So I figured I can enroll online, but back in January when I wanted to enroll my husband asked me to wait because he had recently started his business and wasn't sure if it would succeed. I understood, and waited. Currently, his business is going great but instead of helping me out with college he's sharing his profits with his 2 brothers, and after asking for his help so many times he still decided to put them first...Because it's a family business, we can't get health insurance. So I got a pt job so get insurance. But that is something we could still afford with our income, however he'd rather see me work than to attend college, and instead of investing the right way on our profits he's sharing it with his brothers because he doesn't want them to get upset.

I'm getting so frustrated with this, I don't mean to be selfish but I feel that as my husband he should think about our daughter and us first because she'll grow up and someday go to college as well. But he talks about wanting to fix his brothers teeth which will cost him about $8,000. And he wants to get his nephew circumcised which is again not our responsibility, since his nephews father (my husbands brother) works with us and has the same exact income as us. I feel like he keeps putting others before me and our daughter and I get really upset sometimes.

Now i'm thinking about getting a second job to pay for my school but i'm afraid this will cause us to grow apart. I need some advice because talking to him is very difficult right now, he doesn't seem to see things the same way I see them.

Answer 1

I think you have very valid feelings towards this. Try to sit down & explain this to your husband. Also many on-line schools have financial aid options. Getting an education is very important to better anyone life also its sets a good example for your daughter. There's that saying" If you want something done you have to do it yourself" you may have to go this route. Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

life is full of choices may be he is just very kind and really not all men think that the children and wife should come first do not force your husband.it would be so difficult to get another job when will you be able to study???tell him your first job salary u ll use it for yourself not for him and try to be nice when you say so and explain that you have wasted long time and this is your chance and that you got to use it,but first ask on the internet and be specific about what and where you will study and focus on your career before telling him and if this job will really cover everything and good luck  

Answer 3

Oh h**l yeah that would upset me! I'd go ballistic on his ***.  

Answer 4

You need to have a long talk.  His marriage to you is his first priority, not his family such as brothers or nephews.  While it's admirable that he wants to help his family, he first needs to start at home and be taking care of his wife and child.  He expects you to put up with this?  I don't think he is the right man for you.  He is selfish.  

Answer 5

I think you need to get your education. and dont take no for an answer. remember if anything happens to your husband, you have to support yourself and your daughter.  you need your education to do that.  I have a daughter too, and one thing my wife and i always told her.  dont depend on anybody to support you but yourself.  Tell him you are going to college to finish your education and it is non negotiable.  You and your daughter come first.

Answer 6

I would sit down and make him talk about it hard or not then if he still wont give you the money i would do what ever I had to to pay for it myself as it seems that maybe he doesn't want you to better yourself for what ever reason. try not to let him ruin your dreams do what ever you have to so that you reach your goals and let him know that you are going to do what ever you have to maybe he will see how strong about it you are and help you reach your goals.