Would u bring your new significant other your son's 1st birthday party knowing that the father will be there

Question

the father left u while u were pregnant and again when the baby was 2 and 4 mos old and u decided you were gonna move on...

now you and the father talk today about plans for the bday party and he tells u u cant bring this person or else he wont be there...but the father is ready and willing to help with the party cost...what would u do...

of course the father swears he's moved on too and he's so happy but i dont think he is all that happy because he is trying butt into my life and tells me who i can and cant bring my son around...would u bring the new person to the party....if not..how do i explain this to him

Answer 1

If this man is helping you and your son BY ALL MEANS

Answer 2

I think you need to figure out what the balance is.  You say "new significant other". How new?  I think if it is only a few months you should probably let him now that although he is important in your son's life, the time is not right yet.  If you have been with him long enough that you really think this could go the distance, then he has a right to be there.  

Answer 3

He is just trying to control your new life....one of those if I am not with you, you still can't be with anyone else type of situations.  He choose to leave you and he needs to remember that.  You have moved on with your life and are in a serious relationship with someone else who has a bond with your son so I think if your son likes your boyfriend then your BF should be there too.  Your Ex needs to be adult about these things.  

Answer 4

Are you giving the party or his he?  If you are giving the party, then invite who you want to.  He will have to face the fact someday that he will not be the only man in his child's life.  If he wants to act like he's 5 years old and not come because of your new mate, then that's his burden to deal with.  I personally would never let anyone keep me from celebrating with my child.  Good luck!

Answer 5

No.

The S.O. should not be a part of the child's life at this point and he would have no place at the birthday party even if the father wasn't there.

Answer 6

Simply put, most men don't like to compete.  So be happy that he's willing to accept that "another man" is in his son's life and not being a crazy, stalker type about it.

I've been with my beau for 2 1/2 years.  My son is 8.  My man has never been to any of my son's birthday parties.  I picture him sitting at home, remote control in hand, feet on the coffee table & enjoying the silence....

Answer 7

Just tell your honey he's not able to go - it's a family occasion.

(By the way, what in the world are you doing dating so soon after all of this happened? Time for you to just be a MOM)

Answer 8

i dont think that it would be too smart of a choice

no...dont do it

you will just end up being stuck in some sort of problem

great...now you got me thinking about it and all the possible outcomes

god and they arent good!

dont do it!

Answer 9

out of respect no be honest with your significant other

Answer 10

This actually happened to me...My husband left me when I was pregnant with my son...we were divorcing and after being speperated for 9 months I began to date a guy who I had known since I was 14...his parents are my sons God Parents...well I baptised my son and my husband nor his family came...so when it came to my son's 1st birthday...the boyfriend was there and the soon to be ex-husband came! My mouth dropped...he brought me a rose too which made it really akward....needless to say...me and the hubby reconciled and the boy friends moved to the side and let me decide and now we are just friends and i had another baby with hubby and going on 8yrs of marriage....this just happed 4yrs ago....