Would u hook up with someone like this?

Question

I am a bi female and not out. There's this woman who has a crush on me and to whom I feel strongly sexually attracted for about a year now. Thing is that's the problem. The sexual attraction is way stronger than the attraction to her personality. I usually have crushes on women because of both personality and physicality. But though I am attracted to her outgoing, jolly and warm personality, this feels more lusty than usual. I am a kind of a reserved romantic.

We don't seem to have a lot in common (though we've known each other briefly for 5 yrs). We're both in a group that meets for a few months each year. When we do talk, it's kind of awkward. But she always stares at me and I stare back. We sometimes end up brushing against each other casually in public. I know this may sound terrible.... but I usually feel like having a fling instead of starting a relationship with her.....and I don't know why. I don't like having such superficial feelings for someone.

I haven't been in a relationship or really dating for awhile so I am tempted to give in to this but a part of me is holding back. I don't want to use anyone..

Should I start something with her or forget about it? Does this happen to you? Please be kind...

Answer 1

I would say go for it! Just have s*x with her! You only live once and you would regret it in years to come!!

Answer 2

Just pork her once and then move on. You obviously want to do her. She probably won't have a problem with it. h**l. I'd do it.

Answer 3

I don't personaly think that every encounter with another person needs to be leading to a long term relationship.

If you want to hook up with her just be honest from the start, say your not sure your looking for anything serious right now and see what she says.  

Answer 4

you know what? i think you should follow your head on this one.  if whats holding you back is that strong, listen to it.  its there for a reason. look elsewhere for what you want. go for it when you KNOW its what you want

Answer 5

It seems to me your guilt is arm wrestling with your sexual desires.

The desires tend to play dirty, so you shouldn't feel bad about giving it a shot. I say you start it out like any relationship, and maybe you'll find that when the ice is broken, when you're actually talking one-on-one, and when you're actually intimate, you see her in a whole new light.

If not, you have a shallower-than-average fling and lasts until one of you terminates it... and if the guilt starts winning, there's no harm in saying, "This isn't what I thought it'd be like"... It happens in relationships all the time.

Answer 6

I doubt either of you would be using the other, it sounds like pure "animalistic lust" and you should just go for it, and see where it leads.

Worse case you find that there is nothing in the end and have some wild s*x in the process. Best case you find something more.