Would u mind?

Question

My flatmate pays rent for room but uses all my things including freeview tv in room....

last week was my birthday....anyway she didnt text me happy bday or wish me happy bday...do u think thats rude.....?? would u be upset if that was u?

Answer 1

She pays you rent - she is not obliged to wish you happy birthday.  You should have established exactly what you were willing to let her use or not before she moved in.  It would not be normal to expect her not to watch the tv in the lounge regardless of who owns it.

Answer 2

If she knew it was your birthday, then a simple happy birthday would have been proper. I would be slightly miffed if someone who shared my flat and knew it was my birthday didn't acknowledge it at all.

If she uses items that you pay for,then she should contribute some money towards the bill.

Answer 3

remind her that she is renting the bedroom and that IF she wants to enjoy other facilities then should make a contribution no matter how small and maybe the birthday  incident  wasn't done with bad intentions , if it was done with bad wishes  then yes it was very RUDE  and you tell  her so that it hurtfull to you

Answer 4

did she now it was ure birthday?

and freeviews free, so you cant realyt charge her or anything for that :P

Answer 5

It would have been a nice gesture to wish you Happy Birthday if she knew but I do not think it is a major issue if she didn't.  Freeview TV is free so why the problem there? I don't think it is anything to get particularly upset about, some people put a real effort in to birthdays and others don't. Perhaps if  you had been more explict about 'using all your things' it would have been easier to give you a more precise answer. If it is something like running up a phone bill you have to pay that's definitely not on If just the birthday thing I would say let it go.

Answer 6

It depends.... do you think of her as one of your good friends or just a roomate? Maybe she didn't even know it was your b day. That's why its always good to drop hints. If she did know and usually says happy b day when it is your birthday maybe she's angry with you or something? There's always a reason why people do or don't do things but consider, what first before you decide on anything.

Answer 7

nah celebrate ur own birthday or just get a huge birthday cake and say she cant have any. she will get the hint =0

Answer 8

Couldn't care less, stop being so sensitive she's just renting a room, has no obligation to be nice.

Answer 9

She was rude when she forgot your birthday, even if she has a terrible memory (when I forgot the name day of one of my best friends, I had no excuse).

You should talk to her about the things that annoy you in her behavior, but it 's too early to get rid of her. I don't think she has annoyed you that much!

Answer 10

she is a bit mean

Answer 11

It depends if I considered her a friend as well as a flatmate.

Maybe she had no credit etc. though...

as for the she uses all your stuff thing, well just start using all her stuff too!

Answer 12

i would be kind of  upset .. but my own family has forgotten my birthday .. and did you tell her or hint to her it was your birthday ??

Answer 13

if me sure i will be upset.

Answer 14

She is renting a room, not a relationship.  If you wish for her to become your friend, talk to her about things she is interested in.  Perhaps you can then find some common grounds to begin a friendship.

Do you know her situation?  Did she know it was your birthday? Are birthdays a time of pain for her (perhaps she was adopted and does not know her own)?  Are birthdays very special times for her that are only celebrated with friends and you are the mean landlord that gives her grief about using the tv?

I might be slightly hurt if I thought that she knew my birthday and did not even give me a simple happy birthday.  But then I should hope that I would attempt to discover if it was a simple oversight, or if she has some cause to be upset with me, and what  could do to fix it.

Answer 15

It may be as simple as maybe she just had no idea it was your birthday.

Answer 16

beat her ***

Answer 17

I think you should sit down with her and confront her because she could have forgot or she could be upset from you.

Also if you don't the fact that she uses your things then maybe you should tell her that as well.

Look at the positive things about her and measure it with the negative things and then decide if you want to keep her or not.

Answer 18

maybe she forgot, or maybe she is mad at you,