Would u think she should just get over this?

Question

You're best friends with someone who has asthma. It never really affected her before and never got in the way, but she says she has gotten worse over the past few years. She takes medicine for it but this year it supposedly got really bad. Earlier in the year she was sent to the hospital for a few hours b/c of it.

When you hang out, she will occasionally bring her asthma up. Sometimes she'll mention how she had an attack, or will mention how she can't do something because it will affect her asthma. Sometimes she won't be able to hang out at all because she says it's acting up. Her asthma was never an issue until recently.

There are people who don't let being sick get in their way. So would u think that she should just get over this?

Answer 1

WOW, i think you need to get over it not her!  You should just be supportive or leave her alone cuz your a real bad friend!

Answer 2

ha ha .... glad not everyone thinks about that like you do!

Answer 3

if your her friend you will stand by her through thick and thin work past her problems  and help her see that she can still be the person she was

Answer 4

Sometimes you just have to live with friends like that.  The best thing to do is to find more out about it and try to help her .  

Answer 5

Sounds like someones a little jealous. Trust me I have this same problem with a friend of mine, but a whole different reason. Now my friend is hanging out with me more than her other friend (BFF2) It's not like BFF2 couldn't hang out with the both of us, she chose not to, or would make excuses why she couldn't. We invited her all the time, now the reason is because I'm moving away and my friend wants to hang out with me as much as possible before I move. So BFF2 is jealouse the the friend is with me most of the time. So my advice is wait it out. Don't invite her to anything and when she ask why you didn't invite her, tell her because you thought her asthma would have gotten in the way.

BD.

Answer 6

What do you know about asthma? Do you know that when it attacks she will find it hard to breathe? Do you know what brings on her asthma attacks? If you really want to be her friend, learn from her. What are the causes, the effects and what should you do in case of an attack, how can you help her. Maybe if she knows that she can depends on you to help her if it attack comes when you are hanging out, she will go out with you.

Answer 7

I think this is something she is afraid of...I wouldn't wanna go out after i had a close call at the hospital. I think you need to help her, support her.

She needs time, and since her asthma has gotten worse you need not to be so selfish and let her know her own limits. I think she just wants someone to vent this out to. The more u are there to help, the faster she should get over it.

Answer 8

Heh hon honestly you've never had to deal with a illness most of your life. I'm epileptic, I have seizures somedays severe other days not so severe. I've been on many different cocktails of seizure meds but i still have seizures, I'm still epileptic.  Maybe she's making a excuse, maybe she's really having a horrible year with her asthma,  who is to say? All I have to say is that honey you need to be there for her, let her know you support her and let her know your feelings on this, the only way things get cleared up is if you communicate. Friendship is like a marriage, communication is vital in order for it to survive. If  your friend doesn't know how you feel how can you make things better? My advice...talk to her about how you feel  and see where that gets you. Support her, she needs a good friend to get her through the sicky moments.