Would u want someome 2 come sit with u if u were by urself?

Question

there was this girl sitting by herself today in lunch and whenever someone is sitting by their selves i would joke with my friends and say "go invite them over to sit with us" so someone dared me to invite her over so i did.

i was like "what grade are you in, wanna come sit with us" and she just said" 9th, no" and smiled. so asked her again and she said she was fine. i told my friends and they were saying how she was rude and whatever. what do you think?

Answer 1

She's not rude at all.  More than likely, she's very shy and just thought you guys were making fun of her and didn't want to seem eager.  Try again another time when you're alone so she knows that you really do want to talk to her.

Answer 2

if i was by myself then yea i would want someone to sit with me.

but yea nxt time ask if yall can sit with her.

good luck!!

Answer 3

some people have no problem being by themselves. if you've asked her twice now and she said no both times, just leave her alone. if she changes her mind she'll come sit with you. it would be nice to say hi to her though if she passes you/you pass her.

it sound like you and your friends are extremely immature and mean. why was it a "joke" or "dare" to ask someone sitting alone to sit with you and your friends? that should be just a nice thing to do.  

Answer 4

i think it's good to ask people to come sit if they are by their self it might make them uncomfortable at first but they need someone to talk to and include them and they might be to nervous to go sit with people.  There was a little girl in my 3rd grade class and no one would even give her the time of day in 12th grade she commited suicide.  Probably because she thought she had no one. It's a sad story but very very true

Answer 5

I'd usually say I'm fine, I just like to be alone sometimes.

I tend to do that even if I'm friends with the person/

shes not rude, just leave her alone.

Answer 6

d**n shes shyy keep asking her, she probably didnt believe you lol

Answer 7

she probably knew you guys werent really trying to b nice,

Answer 8

Well i think i would feel more comfortable if you offered to sit with me like at that table because if you invite her to your table shes gonna feel all uncomfortable around all of your friends so i kinda understand why she did that, but it so nice for you to actually ask her too!!

Answer 9

She could be independent.

Or she could tell your only inviting her cause you feel sorry for her.

She might not like you

She could be having a bad day.

Answer 10

It was thoughtful what you did, but some people just want to sit by themselves, apparently. I don't think she was being rude, per say, maybe she was just nervous, or thought you were making fun of her. A+ for effort, though.

Answer 11

are you a freshman? the reason I ask is because the maturity level of you and your friends seems to make you seem that way.

anyway, whether you're a freshman or not, she probably just didn't feel comfortable going eat where a bunch of people, that she didn't know, might be watching her eat. not to mention, when people are joking around, especially like that, they seem to stare, and it's likely that she caught on. it's also likely that she was embarrassed to have to come sit with your friends because she didn't have any (or they simply weren't there).

Answer 12

I would guess 1. she just prefers to sit alone during lunch (I did in the lunch room since my friends usually went outside instead), 2. she's shy and it takes her a bit of time to warm up to new people, or 3. she was smart enough to know that you had made a joke about her sitting alone and were dared to go invite her to your table.  No, I don't think she was being rude, as your friends conjecture, but I think you were.

Answer 13

>.< h**l no! If I'm alone, most people know that I'm like that because I'm having some me-time...

But if I feel lonely...

I'M EVERYWHERE WITH EVERYONE! YAYAYAYAYYAA! I just run around huging people who I know (from name or face if I don't know their name but seen them more than once :p) and end up stealing someone's lunch and hanging out with them...

Answer 14

At least she smiled, right? Some people just like to have alone time. Maybe she just received terrible news, or had a bad day. Personally, I would enjoy the company of somebody if I was alone, but it would be a lot less meaningful if the person was only dared to do it.