Would you adopt a child if...?

Question

you knew that you and your partner are totally able to conceive?

Answer 1

i was adopted when i was 13 after my parents passed away. me and my two brothers. and the loving people who adopted us were very able to have children, and probly wanted to someday because their not horriably old. their not my mom and dad, but im there daughter and i wouldnt wanted anyone else to take care of me and my little brothers. so i thank god that they adopted even tho they could have children.

where would i be if they didnt? try to think of it that way, there is a kid or more, who someday maybe thanking god for your choice.

<3 god bless

Answer 2

yes

Answer 3

I would be adopt regardless. Adoption isn't about the parents inabilities.

Answer 4

i will be i dont want kids of my own

Answer 5

I have four bio-boys and am pregnant with my fifth and we still foster and are thinking of adopting one of our foster sons.

Answer 6

Yes since I did. I had 3 bio children and adopted my 4th child.

Isn't it sad that I adopted a little girl (not the "perfect White baby") who'd already been in 2 foster families and whose 2nd foster mother was expressing concerns about attachment and people give me thumbs down? Should I feel invalidated? Should I think my experience is being generalized? Should I imagine that some people know my situation without ever having experienced it?

You don't know all the attachment efforts made for my daughter so that she wouldn't have attachment disorder. You don't know that I tried to maintain contact with the birth mother again and again. It wasn't ME that stopped contact. So what exactly do you find wrong with the way we did things? Perhaps my daughter should've remained in foster care or a series of foster cares is more likely. Would THAT have been in her best interest? Would that have changed the adoption industry? Would that have improved her adjustment as an adult?

Answer 7

Yes I would.  One day if I am able to I will be adopting regardless if I have natural children or not.  I hope to one day adopt a sibling group  of 2 or 3 from Brazil.

Answer 8

No i wouldn't and if i couldn't conceive i still would not want to adopt just because i would want my own flesh and blood, if that was so then i would do without having a child.

Answer 9

I'd never adopt. But I would foster and sponsor children.

My parents did it though - my Mom gave birth to 2 boys before adopting me, they wanted to guarantee a girl

Answer 10

Yes. We adopted both of our children, and as far as we know, we are not infertile. I know several other families who've decided to adopt internationally or though the foster system rather then having a child biologically, despite their ability to do so.

Answer 11

yes, because there are children out there who want to be adopted but never do and never get the chance to know what is like to be in a family.

Answer 12

I would never adopt a child.  I'm not into the ownership thing.  I might be a guardian to a child of a friend orrelative, but that's it.

To me it would be like being reassigned a new husband who could no longer be with his first wife.  I would always know he felt loyalty and loss concerning his wife.

Life is too short for pretending IMHO.

Alison said: "I think it's better for the child to know that they enhance your lives"

Newsflash--you're supposed to be enhancing their lives!

Answer 13

Yes, my infertility had no bearing on our wanting to adopt.  Even before we knew there were problems, we had discussed adopting a child that needed a home.

Answer 14

We are not infertile, (well, we are now that I got a tubal ligation but that was my choice), and have 3 bio kids, but we still chose to adopt a 2 1/2 year old and 8 1/2 year old from China. So I guess my answer is yes, I would adopt a child who truly needed a home and had no chance of remaining with biological family, such as an orphan with no living or identifiable relatives or a foster child who cannot remain with family, even though we could've had more biological children instead.

Answer 15

We had always planned on adopting - only thing is we planned on having a couple bio kids first.  After 4 yrs of trying we've been unable to conceive and are going through the adoption process a little sooner than we origionally planned :)

We have changed our attitudes toward it though - we origionally wanted to adopt to give a kid a good home and good upbringing - now we just want our family to expand.  It's actually a change for the better - I think it's better for the child to know that they enhance your lives instead of you trying to give the child charity and just enrich their life.  

I think our infertility has changed us and we will probably be better parents to our adopted children because of it!  (not that people with bio kids are adopting for the wrong reasons, I'm just saying our perception changed)

Answer 16

OFCOURSE I WOULD! there are millions of children who dont have a place to live. And if i could make it 1,000,999 i would. cause atleast that is one less

Answer 17

YES!!! I already have 2 boys and would love to adopt another child.

Answer 18

Most Def. What better gift than to bless an orphan with a chane to have a loving family.

Answer 19

I really don't know. I want to say yes...but i feel it has to take a strong person to adopt a child. You have to be willing to go thru all the red tape, dealing with adoption lawyers, social service workers. Not only that some children have problems dealing with their adoption. I have to say i don't know if i could do it. Even though i'm adopted it doesn't mean i could really relate to how that child feels. Because they may have different feelings than me. I just feel it takes special people to do this. I just haven't come to terms yet that i may be that special person.

Answer 20

Certainly! That's our plan  =)

Answer 21

In my opinion and experience...NO...We adopted and got the child from h**l. She was a good baby, but grew up to be something else. She was treated the same as our other children.

Answer 22

yeah i would.

theres nothing wrong with wanting a  kid.

and you would help a kid in need of a father and a mother, etc.

for the most part: a family

hope i helped :)

Answer 23

In one sense, I would like to adopt if the child were:

A. a real orphan.

or

B. had been abused/neglected by first family

but, I also would be open to adopting a child in a real open adoption situation. I would really want the child to keep in contact with his/her first family and to have a really good relationship. I would want to keep the child's name and keep all family ties possible. I also would want to be open to the childs questions, etc. While I am not "pro adoption" in every situation, if the child had to be given up, I think I would be a good adoptive parent.

Answer 24

i would rather have my own but i would probably adopt only if it was the child of a good friend or family member that needed to be adopt under unusual circumstances.

Answer 25

Yes. We already have one son, and we're planning to adopt a set of siblings as soon as we can after we move.

Answer 26

yes. Why not give a child who is already in this world a chance at a family and love? There is more than enough children to go around to those who can and can not concieve.

Answer 27

yah totaly

Answer 28

Prolly not...i want to have my own them maybe adopt

Answer 29

I think it depends honestly.  I would have to know the background of where the child was coming from.  I have heard horror stories about adoption. I don't think I would personally adopt but I don't see why not.  I have 2 boys, and have my tubes tied.  I think if we were to adopt we would try to adopt a girl.

Answer 30

Yes, I would, but unfortunately I have PCOS, which makes it extremely hard to conceive, and some women never do and I think I'm one of those who won't.

Answer 31

Yes, there are so many children in the world who need homes (I am talking true orphans, or abandoned/abused children) and we  can offer a home to one of them.

We are planning on adopting internationally and we haven't even tried getting pregnant.