Would you adopt a child?

Question

What makes a good parents? Blood relations or how they take care of the kid?

Answer 1

Yes my husband and I are looking into it now. Blood relation or not.  It is all in how you raise the kid.

Answer 2

I've seen people who gave birth to their children only to abuse and neglect them...the blood relation didn't seem to make a whit of difference in how they treated the children.  I've also seen people with biological children who treat them like the marvelous blessings they are!

I've heard of adoptive and foster parents who don't treat the adopted or foster kids well at all (I've heard of it through the media) and I've heard of adoptive and foster parents who treat their children as they should...marvelous blessings.

The blood relation or lack thereof has nothing to do with what makes someone a good parent.  It's all about making sure that child is loved, nurtured and cared for.  It's my job as my biological sons' mom, my adopted daughters' mom & my foster daughter's mom, that they are well cared for, they have all their needs met and that I nurture them and love them so that they can become the people they were designed to be.  it's the world's most difficult job and requires a lot of diligence, effort and love, but it's SO worth it!

Answer 3

i would love to adopt a child. A good parents is how you take care of a child not who you are related to

Answer 4

I would but my wife doesn't want to. and I don't think that it matters if you are blood or not as long as you are not abusive.

Answer 5

Loving and caring for an off spring makes a good parent. Hellping the child become the best they can be

Answer 6

How good you are as parents of course!!!  I'd love to adopt.

Answer 7

I did adopt, and it was the best decision that I ever made.  So much so that I did it not once, but twice.

Also - a comment about the cost.  You get up to 10,000 tax CREDIT (i.e. subtraction from what you owe) so that ultimately you end up getting most if not all of your money back if you adopt domestically.  Of course, international is much more expensive.

The year after I adopted each one of my daughters, I paid no tax at all!  By three years after, I had all my money back - no cost to me at all.   It is almost like you are borrowing the money from yourself and the govt pays you back at tax time.

Answer 8

What makes a good parent is such an open and broad question. Personally, I have been with my wife since her daughter was 11 months of age from a previous relationship. As years went by I did adopt her legally and feel it was one of my greatest accomplishments, knowing that I would be this childs legal parent. Blood means nothing, its whats in the heart.

Answer 9

I would adopt first off. Secondly, it definately depends on the environment the child is raised in and their relationship with the parents who raise them. Blood line does not affect how well a family can bond.

Answer 10

Loving and caring for a child is so important. My husband and I are planning on adopting in a few years. I think it's a great idea. So many children go unloved. Also, all these orphans in the world DO grow up, and, though I'm not speaking from experience - only theory - I think a lot of these children probably develop life issues, maybe even anger, as a result. May God bless the orphans.

Answer 11

I actually am planning on adopting a baby.  Raising a child with love is the most important thing.  My husband and I already have four children and the doc so no more biological babies so we would like to adopt when our youngest is 4 or 5.  I don't necassarily want an infant, since part of me feels that is selfish since I have had 4 already, so we would like a 2 or 3 year old that needs a loving stable home.  We have already started saving money to adopt since it is so much more expensive to adopt then have a child naturally.  I think adoption is a great gift to give a child.

Answer 12

How you raise a child is what makes a good parent and I would adopt if my husband would agree to it.

Answer 13

I would love to adopt a child. Blood relation makes no difference at all!My only worry would be whether or not I would be strong enough, patient enough, or bright enough to handle some of the  emotional problems that come with adopting an older child.It would be great to make a difference in a child's life and to provide a loving family to someone who needs one.

Answer 14

Well, I'm only 14. But, I've always wanted to adopt. Because, I believe that every child should have parents who love them. Weather they're the child's blood parent or not.

Answer 15

i would love to adopt a child i just know that it is alot of hard work to get approved

Answer 16

I was adopted at a young age by my parents.  I love my birth Mom for doing what was most likely best for me in her situation, and must have been very difficult.  I also love my parents so much for being willing to adopt me when they couldn't have kids of their own.  They are the best parents ever.  I never ever thought of them as "not my real parents" just because we weren't related by blood.  And I know they love me just as much as they would have if we were.

Answer 17

Blood relation has nothing to do with being a good parent.  Otherwise, we wouldn't have child abuse and the such.  As an adoptive parent, both of my children are treated with a great deal of love and respect.  They are MY children, blood relation or not!

Answer 18

Uh, yes, I would.  ;-)

How well they take care of the child.

Answer 19

Yes.  A parent is only a good one if they care for the child.  It's not automatic just because you gave birth to them.

Answer 20

Blood relationship has very little to do with any aspect of parenting.  The parenting starts the day the baby is born.  That is when the baby starts developing his/her impressions of the environment.

Answer 21

I don't think it matters if they are blood realtions or not. The only thing that matters is if they are good parents.

Answer 22

there are good and bad parents of both adoption and blood. It just depends on the parents.

Blood relations are important, there IS something to genetic mirroring, and familiarity. To a newborn, his mother, that he was born from, is EVERYTHING. Favorite sight, smell, sound, taste, touch. To lose that effects newborns traumatically.

At the same time, if a biological parent isn't taking good care of their child, that it becomes a health risk, mentally or physcially, then living with someone else who can take "care" of the child, would be better for the child.

Its a trick question in my book. There is no REAL answer.

The best one, would be of course, a blood parent taking care of their child.

Answer 23

The way a child is raise makes a good parent. If I adopted a child I would make sure I adopted a baby. There is nothing like a brand new start.

Answer 24

my boyfriend and I have actually talked about this. we want a big family. like 6 six. some biologically and some by adoption.

good parents are the ones who are there for their children and raise them right. love them unconditionally, teach them, and interact/play with them. blood makes no difference.

Answer 25

Yes, my husband and I are going to do foster adopt.  I think good parents don't have to be blood related, but are those who can emotionally and financially support children, love them as they are, be there for them, continually give of themselves, put children first, be an advocate for them, and help them be the best they can be (educated, independant, and happy).

Answer 26

Would I adopt a child--No.

What makes good parents?--If the adoptive parents love their child and take good care of him (her), then they'll be good parents.

Answer 27

How you raise the child, I was an the situation where I was seriously considered adopting but I got pregnant through IVF.

I have friends who were adopted and sadly both of their relationships with their adoptive parent were really not all that good and they went off the rails.

But that doen't mean all people who are adopted are like that my Nan & Grandad took in my cousins when their parents split up and they've turned out fine, they got alot of love and attention from my  Grandparents, at my Grandad's funeral, my cousin turned round to my Dad and said I haven't just lost my Grandad I've lost my Dad today too, He was extremely close to him. Bless himX

Answer 28

how they take care of the child.and i could love any child.there is alot of bad parents that are blood.and some wonderful ones that adopt