Would you agree that there can be an element of ego even when we desire to give the very best to our children?

Question

Would you agree that there can be an element of ego even when we desire to give the very best to our children?

Answer 1

Yes. We sometimes favor giving things over building character & personal strength.

Answer 2

Many parents deprive themselves of the essentials so that their children can have everything.  This is something not very uncommon in India.  Most of the parents want the very best for their children.  Motives could vary from person to person...some do it so that there children's future would be secure, so that they could in turn have a better life in old age.  Some do it so their children (sons) would fetch a better price in the marriage-market.  

BUT,  there are some who do it genuinely from heart,  out of LOVE.  It is especially true if the children happen to be daughters!  So that they are able to be self-sufficient and better equipped to face life.  I call it Ultimate Sacrifice;  shorn of ego!!!

Answer 3

What would be the first thought that would come to your mind if your child comes up saying " Dad! this is person I've decided to spend my life with"

if the thought is "ok! lets give it a shot and see if my child's decision is right" only then the element of ego is absent. Else there is an ego that operates inside you.

Answer 4

Indeed; linguistically speaking (Our) relating to us or ourselves especially as possessors according to dictionaries, we tend to see our children as extension to our own existence whether consciously or sub- consciously.

Answer 5

If you don't display and impart a little ego to your kids, you aren't much of a parent.

Answer 6

It would be hard to qualify any act of kindness, done by a human, as not attributing some sort of nudge to the fragile ego. Giving for the sake of giving still brings a reward of pleasant feelings to the giver. Selflessness CAN be achieved, just don't expect anything in return. But our egos are buoyed in any act of doing good, we still want that feeling.

Yes, I'd agree

Answer 7

Not only do I agree that there "can be," but there is. Always. Its unavoidable. I've always viewed ego as my sense of self. I am always monitoring my sense of self in relation to the rest of the family and the people I love.

While I applaud the idea of "ego-less" love, I think its impossible to obtain. Moreover, I think such a situation would be unhealthy

Answer 8

Yes because the conditions that a child lives in, the manner in which they speak, dress and act is all a reflection on the parents. If a person looks down at a child, they automatically blame the parents or caregivers.  

Answer 9

Yes, sometimes.