Would you allow your 15 year old to lock his/her bedroom door?

Question

Would you allow your 15 year old to lock his/her bedroom door?

Answer 1

At this age it's very embarrassing to have parents or siblings walk in which you're changing clothes.  So long as the door is opened fairly promptly after a knock, it would be fine with me.  My son was 13 when his sister was 3, so I installed a key-lock k**b on his bedroom door and encouraged him to keep it locked when he wasn't there in order to keep her from getting into breakable or dangerous stuff.

The door should be unlocked when they are asleep for safety reasons, although I can see where a girl might want to keep her door locked at night, especially if Mom's boyfriend spends the night.  No assumptions against him necessarily, but I can see where she would feel safer.

Answer 2

Sure if you trust him/her and as long as they are alone.  Most teenagers just need a sease of priv.  Don't your remember when you were 15?  

Answer 3

I think it is OK as long as you trust the teen. If you still don't feel comfortable, you could allow him/her to lock the door, but you could keep a key as a compromise. Fifteen is definitely old enough for privacy, though.

Answer 4

absolutely

there is no reason for them to keep it unlocked

Answer 5

Maybe I am just weird, but no.  She can close the door for privacy, and we respect that.  No one but my husband and I are allowed to lock the doors to our bedroom.  My kids are allowed to lock the doors to bathroom that goes with out question.   Teens today have to much to hide,  it just become easy for them to do that if we allow them to.  We focus a great deal on respect of each other.  This works for our family every one is different.

Answer 6

yes. i would allow my 1 year old :)

Answer 7

if he/she gives no reason to have the door locked, then why lock it in the first place.

  At least if the door is shut respect his/her privacy by knocking first and waiting for a reply to enter

Answer 8

I don't know who you are wanting to here from, but I'm a teenager myself.

I never used to lock my door, but I appreciate some privacy. Unless you suspect your child of doing something you wouldn't approve of I wouldn't worry about it.

If you hassel him/her about it he/she will become rebelious and annoyed.

Answer 9

No on locking the door ...but parents what i appreciated as a child was my parent calling my name...knocking on the door and THEN opening it.

try it maybe with that kind of compromise everyone can be in a middle ground thing

Answer 10

Yes they need privacy at that age but make sure no boys/girls are sneaking through the window lol

Answer 11

Teenagers deserve privacy. Locking your bedroom door is no different from locking your bathroom door.

But, I would never let her/him keep it locked 24/7. That would make me a bit suspicious. I wouldn't want them hiding and locked in their room ALL the time. That's disrespectful to the household, I think.

Kids need to have private time to m********e, hold private conversations, plot their taking over the world, etc.  

Answer 12

No. For the simple fact that i don't think they should need to. Of course when i was 15 i wanted a lock on my door too, but my mom wouldn't let me for one simple reason, what if there was a fire? or some other emergency where she needed to come in?

I Do however think a 15 year old should have privacy, and the right to say who is allowed in there room, and of course the right to keep there door closed.  So the question goes to why do they feel they need a lock on there door? Does someone go in there room without asking or knocking? thats the problem that needs to be addressed.  This goes to the parents too. you need to treat your child's bedroom the same respect you expect them to treat yours. Altho this level of privacy is a privilege, and the 15 year old should know that, and make sure they don't give there parents a reason to come in.. for example, if your called out you need to come out or answer the first time, etc.  

Answer 13

i would say hold back its really not ok 4 them to lock the door find out if him/her has a boyfriend and if not them you can let them lock the door but make sure that u are not to pertectable or the kid will not talk to u for a wile take my advice and maybe that will help just don't be to dramatic

Answer 14

If the 15 year old is alone (no boyfriend or girlfriend over), not severely depressed, using drugs or sneaking out the window, yes.    

Answer 15

depends on who is in there with them. if their boyfriend or girlfriend is in there too, then no way.

Answer 16

im a mom and i wont let my kids have locks on there doors when they hit the teen years. I remeber being a teen and mmy boyfriend had a lock on his door so we could make out or other things or so he could sneak out to meet me in my opinion NO WAY just give them some space and knock before you come in  

Answer 17

We allowed our (at the time) 13 year old to install a lock on her door.  She has an older brother who couldn't seem to keep out of her stuff.  The understanding was that her door could be locked when she was not at home.  Made sense, we lock our houses when we are not at home.

Answer 18

yes aslong as she is alsone and not with a boy but you need to give your child some space and prvacy but if she`s mad at you NO you need to talk to them  

Answer 19

If your teenager hasn't done anything serious to lose your trust then I would say yes.  Unless the opposite s*x is with them.  They need privacy and trust as well as you do.

Answer 20

As long as I have a key and the windows are barred, Parents have every right to spot check their childrens room. It's not that you don't trust them, it's just that kids sometimes kids make heat of the moment choices that aren't always good..  

Answer 21

When I was living at home they allowed me to put a lock on my door when I was 13. I always kept my door locked but only because my parents and brothers had no respect for privacy and would just barge right in. No knocking, nothing. And sometimes I'd be changing...or..dare I say it...masturbating. TMI, but we all do it, none of us want our mothers seeing us do it though. And there's nothing wrong with it. Healthy...

I was never allowed to lock it if I had girls over though. I wasn't even allowed to close it. IF I have kids some day, I'll do it the same with my kids. I think it's fair, and yanno I don't want to walk in on my kids while they're masturbating, my mother still hasn't looked at me the same way.

Answer 22

I would but I would have a spare key and the understanding would be that the door could be locked as long as he/she answered ( by voice or by coming to the door) the door when someone knocked.  There would also be an understanding that I wouldn't enter the room unless I had reason to .  

Answer 23

No i would not. The only reason i locked my room when i was a teenager was because i was probably up to no good. I think if you can set rules like you can close you door but not lock it. And if you need to go in his/her room knock first. But you don't have to wait for a  RESPONSE.