Would you be angry because your own father hasn't seen your first home?

Question

My father hasn't seen my first house since I bought it over a year and a half ago. I am now 38. He remarried a very controlling woman when I was 18 and there has been a change in him ever since. When I asked him why he hasn't seen it he replies "it's complicated.." or "I've got things to do ..I'm busy".. etc. I think his not visiting my first home would not bother me as much if we actually had a close father-son bond

Answer 1

Does he live near by? I would be very angry but in this situation I think you need to let him know you are upset with him and why. Then let him know the door is always open when he is ready to visit. Also maybe you could invite the stepmom and take that route.

Answer 2

Wow, you dad sounds a lot like mine.  Only thing is, his wife isn't very controlling.  But, he favours my young brother over me.  Most of my family does.  My father only acknowleges me for one hour when I come to visit (I only see my family maybe twice a year).  and then it is buddy buddy with my brother again (whom he sees on a regular basis).

Yes, I would angry and more hurt than anything.  

Solution:  Don't bother visiting or calling.  Sooner or later he will will get the message that he's showed you no interest and then he'll start to think twice.  That is what I did.  You are on your own now, you don't need him to pay your bills.  If he wants to ignore you, fine, you've got your own life now.  Live it up.  He's probably jealous that you've moved on and doing well for yourself.