Would you be comfortable if your child's carer at nursery was a male?

Question

Sincere answers please, I believe in equality but just wondered if you'd think twice if you had to put your child in a nursery where most of the carers were male, most nurseries tend to have female carers.

Answer 1

if my daughter was in nappied i dont think i would, but if she was out of them then yes i would. My son would be ok as hes a boy. Nothing funny i just wouldnt want a man seeing my girls bits, kinda protecting her modesty untill she can!!

Answer 2

you have to be CRB checked anyway and a woman can do as much damage as a man. My male cousin is a nursery nurse and he's brilliant with kids

Answer 3

I wouldn't have a problem with it. Men can be as compassionate as women.  When I had my children They were barley in the nursery. They stayed with me most of time. So I wouldn't worry whether male or female they will  be fine. Good luck

Answer 4

My son was at a nursery where there was a male carer in his room and it was fantastic for the children.  They  all thought he was fabulous and he was really good with the children.  Female carers are good of course but i think its nice to throw in a few men here and there to break it up a bit.  Plus its nice for the boys to have a male role model with them.

Answer 5

It wouldn't even cross my mind to worry about.

Male and female staff all get the same training.

If you are that bothered look after your child yourself!!!

Answer 6

Yes, why not? Provided they've been through the same checks as everyone else, I don't have an issue with it. One of the carers at my kids' nursery was male, and he was great.

I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with a nursery where most of the carers were male - simply because so many of the people in the profession are female then they'd pretty much have to have discriminated against female applicants to end up that way. I wouldn't want my kids in the care of people who practiced s*x discrimination.

Answer 7

just be cool!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

no, i just dont trust men.. it is unnatural for a man to claim interest in children...  think about it, even dads have a hard time sometimes acting normal around their own children, simply because they don't know what to do with kids..  why would a complete stranger male be natural with kids?  it is just not natural...

Answer 9

My daughter attended nursery from been 7 months old where all the carers were female until she was about 2 when a male was introduced. The kids loved him and he was great with them ( even though he was camp) i did feel a bit put off to start with then eventually i realiazed there was nothing at all he would do to harm these children and we as a nation should not tar everyone with the same brush.

I was informed that none of the carers are left alone at any time with one child even toilet doors and changing room doors were always left open except at meal times.

I knew i had nothing to worry about but realized how much fun the kids were having with a male around and it never really bothered me at all. Some kids don't get the male bonding from an adult if their mum is a single parent so it is good for them.

Answer 10

when i read the head line was ready to answer no it wouldn't bother me- but since reading the majority would be male think I would have reservations - I think because female are on the whole better child cares so if it was just the one male I would be ok - but honestly I would have concerns if mostly males - weriod I thought I was for equality to??

Answer 11

most nurseries i know of have a policy where no individual nursery nurse, be it male or female are alowwed to care for children on their own. there has to be two members of staff present with children at all times.

i find this quite reassuring.

but purely out of motherly over-protectiveness (if that's even a real word!!) i'd probably still be a little over cautious, checking for unusual behaviour after nursery hours etc.

Answer 12

I'm not sure, I wouldn't be comfortable.  Especially if it's an in-home daycare.  If it is a 'professional'day care I would ask if this person has their clearances to work in a daycare.  But above all...TRUST your instincts.  If your gut tells you otherwise take your child to another daycare.  You are your child's protection and advocate do what's best for your child.

Answer 13

i see nothing wrong with a male caregiver, have you ever see a young guy with 5 3-year old boys? it's almost like watching 6 kids at play... i think boys really benefit from having a male watching them so long as the guy in question is willing to really play with them

Answer 14

No if I had kids. I'd have no problem if it was 50/50 but places where the majority of staff are of the same gender weird me out.

Answer 15

Yes, I have no problems there.

There are actually a couple of male staff at my kids nursery, and they are fabulous. I have no problems with all male staff, there would be less, niggling between staff.

One of my son's has had multiple surgeries in his short life, and he has had male nurses and female nurses, I honestly preferred the male ones. They were so wonderful to him.

I know not nursery, but yeah.

Answer 16

I don't think I mistrust males in that kind of environment but I do think I might feel a bit uncomfortable with it - don't really know why. If I was faced with a decision to place my child in a nursery with men or one with women I would probably choose the one with the women. I am sure that some men would be very capable though.

Answer 17

Wouldn't bother me, it's easier to threaten a man [if things go wrong] than a woman, probably all left handers anyway.

Answer 18

Honestly i would have a problem..it just wouldn't feel right to me especially if i had a little girl. I may sound ignorant but no way would I leave my child with a carer that was a man...I would definitely think twice. Just the other I was talking a friend and she said she left her 10 month old daughter stay the night with her god father..It kind of freaked me out.

Answer 19

What has anyone's s*x got to do with anything? As long as they've been CRB checked and have the relevant qualifications i dont have a problem if the carer is male/female.

I dont know what your implyng with your question. That all men are what exactly?

Answer 20

Wouldn't bother me at all if he was certified as a caregiver by the state, if he was CPR and the like certified, no big deal at all.

Answer 21

actually, I would be bothered, excepecially with the changing of the diaper part.

Answer 22

It wouldn't worry me at all. In fact I used to work in a childcare centre and the male members of staff were the most popular.

Answer 23

Yes I'd be comfortable with it. My son's new teacher is a male and I think it will be good for him, as he has normally had women caring for him.