Would you be disappointed in your child?

Question

I'm 15 and I've had severe depression for a long time (diagnosed). I find it hard to talk to my parents about it and about how I'm feeling, but I do my best. About 3 months ago, I took an overdose of paracetamol, cocodamol and aspirin and ended up in hospital. I promised never to do anything like it again. I've now been seeing a psychiatrist and I'm on anti-depressants and anti-psychotics. I'm meant to take 1.5mg of the anti-psychotic but I've been taking 10.5 instead. I've also been taking paracetamol when I don't need it.

I've been thinking a lot about taking a lot of tablets again. It feels like I have no other choice and I do try my hardest to talk myself out of it each time. My parents try to help me, I don't want to seem like a failure to them. I feel sometimes like they think I'm stupid for being like this and I don't want them to keep thinking I'm doing everything wrong. I know everything I'm doing is mistakes but I feel like I can't help it.

Would you be disappointed if you were my parents?

Answer 1

No I wouldn't, I suffer from depression and now how hard it is sometimes.

I'd be there to support them 100% and give them love.

Answer 2

I would be more disappointed if you didn't talk to me about it and trust me enough to help you.  I know how you feel and I know it is hard but your really need to sit down and write a letter to your parents telling them everything let them know that this is a problem for you and the extent of the problem.  You are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you.  If you don't get to the root of it things are going to be even harder in 5 - 10 years when the addiction has you.  You are not stupid many people go through this.  Good for you for trying to fight it.  That is a lot more than most people going though this at your age or any age for that matter are doing.

Answer 3

No, I wouldn't be disappointed in you at all, but I would be concerned and I would hope that you could talk to me about it.

I would tell you that what you are going through, the way you feel, the depression and so on, are temporary and to a certain extent all people, especially teens, have these feelings.

I would tell you that it is a temporary problem but when you over dose on drugs it can end up being a permanent solution to that temporary problem, so please don't do that.

If you were my child I would want you to tell me what you have been doing so that we can help you cope with your problems, get you off those high doses of drugs (you must do that) and help you to know that once  you get over this rough patch, you will have a wonderful, long and happy life ahead of you.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I would be disappointed if my daughter tried killing herself by overdosing, yes.  I love my daughter.  I want her to feel good about herself, depression aside.  I would support her in anything she tried to do to help the problem, but ending her life, or attempting to, would be a great source of heartache for me.  I would feel like a failure to some degree.

Continue getting help and take the right dosage of your meds so they can be most effective.  

Answer 5

Not at all, I would just feel sad that I couldn't do more or help more.

Answer 6

I would be more disppointed with myself for allowing you to go through this on your own... I would be thinking how is she able to cope if I cant help her.. What can i do???

I wouldn't be disappointed with you hun, i would be more confused.

Can I suggest that maybe you write your thoughts down for your parents to see.. If you find it hard to actually talk to them.. Because honestly hun if I were your parent I wouldnt care how you told me how you felt I would just like to know...

Answer 7

It sounds like your parents love you and want to help you- let them. I tried to commit suicide when I was 13 (prescription drug overdose) and my parents never thought to seek counseling for me after. They pretended it was just a mistake, made me work off the hospital bill and continued on like it never happened. You have people you can talk to, if not your parents then at least your counselor. Talk to them, don't shut out help, honey. Getting help doesn't make you weak or stupid, in fact it makes you stronger for realizing you needed it and sought it out before it was too late. I would never be disappointed in my child for confiding such feelings to me. I would reassure them of my love and do everything in the world I possibly could to help them.

Answer 8

I would be concerned more then disappointed really, however you need to i know hard but need to take control of this situation....what i mean by that is if you can not tell your parents you need to tell your Dr. what you're doing....something needs to happen so you are ok.

I too suffer from depression and have since I was like 13...so I DO understand...but also know that no one can read our minds we HAVE to speak up and we have to ask for help....no matter how hard it is.

Answer 9

If your parents are willing to talk, then talk to them.  I went through depression, anxiety, addiction and suicidal attempt as a teen and in my early 20s.  Unfortunately, my parents wouldn't talk to me, and they did tell me I was stupid.  It sounds like you actually have an advantage--someone to talk to.  Also, my parents wouldn't put me in therapy b/c they wanted the world to think they had a perfect family (in reality, there in no such thing.)

Please talk to your parents.  I'm the father of 2 teenage boys and an 8 y/o.  If any of my kids were feeling this way, I'd want them to come to me.  There is no shame in asking for help.  I would never be disappointed in a person who asked for help.  I'd be much more upset if my child DIDN'T ask for help and ended up killing himself.

Also, give the medicine to your parents and have them give you the proper dose ech day.  If you don't have access to the pills, you are less likely to overdose on them.

I hope you get the help you need and realize that you are a very special person and others are thinking of you and hoping for the best.  you are not alone.

Answer 10

Disappointed, no.

Scared to DEATH - Yes.

Honey, if what you typed/said is true, you should be hospitalized.  It's not fair to put your parents through this.  They must be so worried about you.

If you're having a hard time communicating with them verbally, why don't you let them see this thread that you've typed.  Sometimes, it's much easier letting a person know how you're feeling by writing/typing it.

Honey you need much more help than you've been getting.  Let your parents know.

Answer 11

Oh honey, talk to them.  Please.  I would not be disappointed at all if I were your parent.  I love my kids more than my own life, and I would do anything to help them through something like this - anything.  I don't think I could or would want to survive if my child killed themselves.

Please please talk to your parents and get some help.  You have a disease (depression) - you can't help the way you feel.  They know that and understand that - they don't think you're stupid for feeling the way you do.  

My son has autism and he has behaviors and moods he can't control... and I understand that, try to help him the best I can, and love and adore him with all my heart.  Please talk to your parents, don't hurt yourself.

I wish you the best of luck!!

Answer 12

sweety its not your fault. You have a diagnosed mental problem. You need to go to your doctor and tell him about your problems and feelings. You shouldnt feel this way. You also need to explain to your parents that you want to express yourself to them and you are having those feelings because you feel like you cant talk to them. It could be anything triggering these feelings so you definately need to let your doctor know that you want to request for a psychiatric evaluation so they can help you get a regular therapist so you can talk about your feelings and anxiety. If you need someone to talk to then send me a message  and i will help you and listen for as long as you like. Im not a parent and im only 18 but i do know how it feels to be depressed and feel like you cant talk to anyone

Answer 13

As somebody who has gone through years of depression that resulted in two suicide attempts (suffocating myself using a rosary on both occasions due to being very bitter towards religion) and many years on 3 different types of anti-depressants and 2 anti-psychotics, I wouldn't be. I got out of it, and you can too.

Its possible that you may need meds to live a normal life for a long time, so what? If flintstones vitamins improve your life, take 'em. If anti-depressants do the same, do it. But Suicide doesn't help things. Its your decision of course, and I feel strongly on that. But obviously you don't want to commit suicide. Otherwise you wouldn't be fighting it. If you don't want to, why should you try? Keep yourself busy is my suggestion. Find good, reliable friends. Not just temporary friends or girlfriends who will most likely betray you at some point, even if this means getting together with nerds, geeks, freaks, etc. Find hobbies that are enjoyable to you on their most basic level, not because you are supposed to do them. I personally play video games (particularly World of Warcraft) as my base hobby. Find things that make you happy, and do them with people that make you happy. Find people who don't expect anything of you, and start defining yourself as you want you to be. I spent years fighting the fact that I am a geek. I was ashamed, tried sports, tried to be cool, etc and it didn't work. I was even more depressed because I was trying to be somebody I wasn't and couldn't be that AND be happy.  Its even worse if you are diagnosed with depression. Identify what you are passionate about, and work towards it. Be the best at it. And make jokes out of the times when you fail when possible. Find people with whom you actually connect with.

To put it simply, the best cure for depression is to pull away from what people expect of you, and stop striving for their expectations, and be yourself. Be the best you possible, and surround yourself with people who you personally enjoy the company of. People you trust. Until you can reach a point where you can be happy with that alone, keep on the pills. They help. But its much more satisfying to have conquered it by being yourself.

Answer 14

disapointed? of course not!! I would be worried about you!

Also, I'm sure they do not think you are stupid!!

I would recommend taking the required dosage of the pills. That may actually help ease all those thoughts about taking too many pills.

You are smart that you know it is wrong to take the unprescribed dosage and medications. Maybe you should tell your parents and your docs, that way they can keep your medications and your parents can give you the correct dosage daily so you cant purposely take more. See if that helps.

Taking more than the prescribed can do more harm than good, so let your parents and/or psychiatrist know immediately!!

Don't worry about your parents, they love you and want to make sure

you are happy and well.

best of luck.

Answer 15

Honestly... yes, I would. Not that I would be disappointed about the depression... that's something you can't help... but the suicide attempt and the drug abuse... you CAN help that. Suicide is a coward's way out. It's extremely selfish. That is what would get me.  

Answer 16

no i don't think i'd b disappointed maybe you can't help it... are you addicted to the pills? i know i've over dosed on things like laxatives before but after a while you get dependent on pills and you can't help it, i'm not sure what to tell you about stopping if you're addicted...it's going to b hard but don't give up!

Answer 17

No, Emily, I wouldn't be disappointed in you.  Not at all.

Depression is an illness, just like any other.  one of the symptoms of depression is that feeling of failure you describe. If you are not responding to the medication, you and your doctor need to keep trying until you find what works for you.

If you feel like killing yourself, you need to let your parents and doctor know, so they can help you.  The feelings you are having are symptoms of the illness, although they feel very real to you.

Tell your folks, talk with your doc.  

And remember - you are a very brave young lady who WILL get through this.  Just take it one day - one hour - one minute at a time.

All the best.

Answer 18

I would but i would help them get through it and not mention if i was disappointed in them. It would only make them more depressed.  

Answer 19

I'm sure your parents would never be disappointed with you but they may feel hurt that you are not opening up to them as much as you should be.  They need to know that you're feeling suicidal again so that they can support and love you the way that you need.  It's soooo hard being a teenager let alone being clinically diagnosed for depression.  I seriously hope that you confide to someone soon about your current state and maybe seek long term counseling.  The fact that you are posting this here tells me that you are looking for help.  Keep going.