Would you be honest with your kids...?

Question

If your kids asked you if you had been sent to the principals office how many times and why, would you be honest?

Answer 1

It would all depend on WHY I was sent to the principal.  If I had been sent numerous times I might be selective and tell about the ones I could use as a tool for a learning lesson to my child.  It all depends,  me personally - I was sent twice through my whole life and I did tell of the one in which I used the example as a learning lesson to my kid when she was confronted with smoking.

A parent does not want to taint their image too much to their child, be selective and be wise what you tell them or they may use it against you later.

Answer 2

I dont have any kids now but when i get older and so have kids i will be honest with them about EVERYTHING (execpt s*x when they first ask) i would tell them "yes (their name here) i have been to the principals office. I was ther ___ times and i was there for _______reason. I did learn my lesson and i want you to know that just because i did that when i was young it is NOT ok for you to do that. I made some mistakes and i know you will too, but don't make the same mistakes i made. ok?"

(that is like the same thing my mom told me )

Answer 3

of course -this won't be the only time you'll be challenged.  keep the communication lines open & honest.

Answer 4

if they are brave enough to ask a ? then you should answer honestly.  if they can not trust you then who can they trust?

Answer 5

Yes as long as it wasn't anything too bad.. But being honest with your children seems very important to me

Answer 6

I think you should fib a little. Tell them you have tell them a close reason why and say that you learned your lesson because you dont want them to think that oh if my parents were sent there then it really isnt that big of a deal.

Answer 7

Well, I was always known as a "goody-two-shoes"...... until college.  But I was sent to the office once, for calling a boy a "ding-dong".  We actually laugh about that.

But there are other "Did you....." questions that I will hate having to answer someday.  I will be honest, though.  I will also make sure they know what I learned from my choices, though.

Answer 8

Oh so many stories from my parents!!! He told me he was ding-dong ditching once and the guy came out with a shotgun.

Answer 9

Actually I certainly would. 2 reasons:

1. I only was sent to the principal's office 2 or 3 times my entire life.

But 2 and most importantly, how can I expect my kids to be truthful and honest with me if I can't be truthful and honest with them???

Answer 10

i would tell them.  but then again, i was never in too much trouble.

Answer 11

I was with my stepsons.

Answer 12

We've already been down this road with our son.  And we were 100% honest with him.  Why lie about it.  After our son asked my husband why he was sent up there, and my husband told him, my son said, "that was a very stupid thing to do Dad, I would never do that."

Answer 13

Yes...I think one of the things kids think is that parents don't have any idea what they're going through. Being able to relate is huge......knowing what you went through and being able to confide in you, and you being able to talk about your experiences is something I wish me and my mom were able to do.

My mom always said she knew what I was going through, but actually TALKING about it would've been huge for me.

Answer 14

Sure, I was honest. Being sent to the principals office was no big deal.

The hard questions are the ones like, " Did you skip school" "did you smoke pot" "did you have s*x before marriage", etc. The principal seemed like an easy one.

Answer 15

Yes, why lie about it?

Answer 16

Yes.  Everyone must learn from their mistakes.  I think you should be honest with your children and explain to them how you changed and became a better person, etc.  You also need to explain how actions early in life can reflect on their future, i.e., preparation for being accepted to a college, etc.

I'm not sure how old your children are so of course you would have to tailor the conversation around that, etc.  If they are young enough I think it would be good to tie the example to a character that they like on TV and say...would X character behave this way, etc.

Answer 17

Ya, be honest! just say I was there bla bla times and I have lernd my mastake and You shouldn't be a bad boy/girl.

Answer 18

yes and tell them the bad that came from it

Answer 19

I only ever got sent there once - I have told my girls about it, and I will tell my son when/if he asks.  I got the strap for swearing at a teacher in French - unfortunately for me, the teacher spoke French! LOL  Whoops!  Thought I was being clever there!

I then tell them the reason I only ever got sent once was because I learnt my lesson that first time (which I did) and showed my teachers respect after that.

My mum was always honest with me, and I valued that - knowing that I could ask her something and get an honest opinion (sometimes it was a bit brutally honest! LOL) and I'd like to think my kids - especially my girls - would feel the same about me :)

Answer 20

deffinetly, never lie to your kids. they can always use that against you. Let them know you have and why, but you've deffinetly learned your lesson and that it's not okay for them to do the same.

Answer 21

Yes.  They need to hear about their parents' experiences.  Maybe it would help them make better decisions in the long run.  Plus...what do you have to lose, really?  They'll love you no matter what.