Would you be insulted?

Question

My hubby has been away working this week. He has this bad habit of watching t.v. and being on his portable computer at the same time.

Well, I was sitting in front of him and he was doing that again. Yes, he was talking to me too however I just find it insulting and disrespectful.

Especially since I haven't seen him all week. I know he is very tired but still. Too much technology stuff.

Answer 1

Your'e right. perhaps you could explain it to him becuase he doesn't seem to be getting it.

Answer 2

my husband does me that way  when he is watching tv,

i am trying to talk to him  and he is giving me this yea.

and not even looking or paying attention to me.

but i don't feel insulted, i feel i am not as important as the tv.

Answer 3

Men and their toys. Any other living thing is totally ignored when they are together.

It is just them.

Answer 4

lol, classic.

Most women can talk on the phone, read a book, type on the computer, and watch t.v. all at the same time and still be able to comprehend what is going on with everything.  

Men on the other hand can typically only focus on one thing at a time.  If i am on the computer and my wife is talking to me, i just plainly don't hear her, it's not that i am intentionally ignoring her (normally she will pop up AIM and send me an IM to get my attention lol).  T.V. sorry, all the pretty lights has me mesmerized i am aware of nothing else in the room, tricky thing here is if you turn it off im going to get angry lol.   Usually when i come in the door, I'll kiss her,  put my stuff away.  Look around for the mail (Just settling in to the house, hard for me to come home and focus on anything right away).  And then I'll focus on her first, after a little while she doesn't mind if my focus shifts to something else.

However your husband needs to realize that he should have some priorities, walk over close the laptop lid, turn the t.v. off sit in his lap and say, "Ok, now it's time to interface with this."  and then begin talking.

*edit*

I'm giving missouri girl a big thumbs up!  If i gave you my wife's phone number would you teach her this trick?  Ignoring us is surely the best way to get our attention.   It really is a good idea, men don't like constant attention.  If she would do this, honestly, i think our whole relationship would get better.

Answer 5

No, he just needs some downtime, cut him some slack and wait till a better moment to chit chat.

Answer 6

yes I would be insulted.

Answer 7

I get insulted when my husband does that too me, yet when he is talking he expects me to look him in the eyes at all times or he won't continue. It really sucks.

Answer 8

I think most men do this. I broke my husband of this by doing the same thing to him. I would have dinner already cooked and then go to the bedroom just before he came home. I would read, write, watch movies or talk to my friends and family on the phone. It was actually kinda nice. I would only come out for maybe a drink or some snacks and I would not even look his direction. I was not being rude I just made myself seem very occupied.  By day three or four he started acting kinda upset. I asked him what was bothering him, he said he felt as if I didnt care if he was home or not. I acted shocked and said that I was just tring to let him have "his time" that he wanted.  

He didnt want so much time after that.  lol    

  

Answer 9

Throw that stuff up in his face and I bet he'll put the computer down. I would.

Answer 10

OMG!!! get over yourself already.. Give the man a break and let him relax a little....

Answer 11

Laurience,

You have to be open and honest with him like you did here with this question.

Great question by the way...probably alot of women experience this.

If I were married and the shoe was on the other foot, I would say something like this..."Michelle, I want to talk to you for a minute, can you put that down and mute the TV? Thank you..I really miss you during the day, and I'd like to have some time with you during the week, so do you think we can schedule a couple of days during the week that we can just spend together, no Tv, laptop, cooking, cleaning..you now, like date time just for us. I really  love you and I want you more!"

So Laurience, remember I said "something like that" ..LOL! You know him way better than me or anyone else here.

I know you can turn this around, you sound intelligent and sensitive.

Go get um girl!!

Wally

Answer 12

Go out sometime away from everything.

Insulting?Not if he is carrying ona  coherent conversation.If he just ignored you totally well...then yes.

However he is being somewhat rude.

Answer 13

You need to out smart the fox. You should go out to the power box and switch off the power supply to the house without him knowing and make out there's a power cut due to unknown reason, This way you can spend quite a bit of time with him and when you are done, go and switch the power back on.

Answer 14

I know what you mean. When me and my husband were first dating he would call and we would be talking then all of a sudden i would stop talking and he wouldn't reply i would sit there for a little while and then be like honey are you even listening. He was always on his playstation though. And even now he still does it i will ask him a question and he will say yes then i will continue talking about it and he's like what he doesn't even know what he replied yes to.