Would you be mad about a 'baby name'?

Question

I know this sounds silly, but just wanted to know what everyone thinks.. would you be mad if someone took your 'baby' name? Here is the situation.. My sister in law just had a baby today and named her Ava. Right now my husband and i are not really talking tothem over a fall out about a shared property. Anyway, about 2 months ago, when we were still talking, we were having a convo about baby names.. I said if I ever had a baby I would name it Ava.. and I tossed around the middle name of rose with it.... Two weeks after that I asked her if she came up with any names yet and she said that they had not even discussed it yet... Today I get a text message saying the baby is here and her name is Ava Rose... Now I am not pregnant and don't plan on being so in the very near future, so I do feel a little selfish about it, but she knew that is the name I would love for my future child... Please don't tell me that I can still name a child Ava with a different middle name.. I would not do that.. Just want to know, would you be mad or not?

Answer 1

It was mean of her to do that, she probably, in some way, was getting back at you for the fall out you've had.  When it comes time for you to have a baby I'm sure you'll find another lovely name.  I was set on a name for my daughter for years before I had her and then when I saw her I totally changed my mind.

On the bright side you could always buy a dog and call it Ava....that would be funny.  (Just kidding)  

Answer 2

Of course I would be upset. This happened to my mom. My name was supposed to be Christina. My cousin is about 6 1/2 months older than me. My aunt named her Christina, knowing that my mom wanted that name. Now I'm Elizabeth.

Have I learned a lesson from all this? Nope. I keep sharing my baby names with others. It's hard not to when the discussion comes up and you're excited about the name.  

Answer 3

No... I don't think you should be mad.  It would be different if you were both pregnant and she new the name you liked, had the baby a week before you did and named her Ava.  If you are not pregnant yet, and you absolutely won't name your future daughter Ava, at least you have plenty of time to come up with a new favorite name!

Answer 4

Yes,  I would be mad.

You could still name your child Ava Rose, but she will never admit to your story.  She'll say that you never told her you wanted the name and she named her child Ava Rose first.  i think it really sucks that she did that but there's not much that you can do about it.

Answer 5

I would probably be mad

Answer 6

yeah i'd be mad. i think it's rude when people do that. even if you're not pregnant.

just a thought. you could give your child the middle name ava and have her first name something else.  

Answer 7

I would probably be mad. I just hope for the child's sake they didn't use the name just to get back at you, because that's a horrible reason to give a child a certain name. You can still use Ava Rose. You like it, just because they used it doesn't make it off limits.

I don't like that name, but clearly you do, so use it when you have one.

Hopefully you'll end up with a boy instead so it won't be a problem.

Answer 8

i would probally be this is what i would do

tell her how you feel even though you cant really do much say that you have a lot of feelings and that she should have asked you first and that you are very mad about her decision that explain to her that she knew if you had a child you were naming her that.And also i think she knew you would be mad when she told you so she texted you and didn't call you.

HOPE I HELPED!

Answer 9

In all honesty, nobody really owns a baby name one way or the other.  And she just had her baby--you're not even pregnant.

I can understand you being a little offended, and it would be another story if you were expecting a baby girl a few months after hers and she "stole" your name, but in this case, she was the only one who was pregnant.

Besides, Ava is one of the most popular baby names right now, and Rose is probably the most popular middle name.  It's a nice name, but it's not as though it's the most original combination--who's to say she wouldn't have come up with that on her own after looking into names a bit more?

Answer 10

I would be incredibly mad! Some names I wouldnt care much about, those that are very common, but Ava is a beautiful and uncommon name and she obviously stole it.  

Answer 11

You should actually be flattered that she loved the name you came up with so much that she named her child Ava Rose.

When you do talk to your sister-in-law, make sure you say something like "We talked about so many beautiful names, such as ....... and ...... and if she says "I thought you liked Ava Rose" just tell her that it was one of many names that you really liked, but you have found some you like so much better.

Don't give her the satisfaction of thinking that you are annoyed.

Answer 12

yeh i'd be mad and i'd tell her off Lol

Answer 13

It would hurt my feelings, but I would try and not let it get to me too bad. It sounds like it was intentional and I honestly don't know why people do hurtful things like that. Yes you could still name your future daughter Ava, but I wouldn't want to either, after this. There are many beautiful names out there and when you find the next perfect name, don't tell a soul (except for your husband lol). You have a right to be hurt. Best of luck!

Answer 14

I wouldn't be mad. I change my mind on which name is my "favorite" all the time. When you are having your baby, I'm sure you'll find one that you love even more and will be perfect!

(Besides, Ava has been in the "top 10" baby names for the last 3 years, so it is really really common!!!)

Answer 15

I would. I'm only 13 and i have my kids named allready. I freaked out when my sister decided to name her doll Abbey which is the name i wanted. Eventually you will forget it though and learn to love your niece. And to think your baby will have a much better name than Ava Rose now.  

Answer 16

yes i would be mad!!!

Answer 17

that is pretty annoying, but you'll change your mind a hundred times before you actually have a kid.. or maybe your hot future husband won't like that name anyways, and there will be no loss.

Answer 18

The situation sucks, but try to be happy that your niece has the beautiful name you picked out.

When the time comes for you to name your baby girl, you'll be able to come up with another namethat is just as beautiful (and maybe not as popular).

Answer 19

I'd Be Mad

Answer 20

pat of me would be pleased that someone likes a name i like.. and i think part of me would be mad..

Answer 21

yes, i would be mad! do not discuss things like this with her anymore if she is not going to handle it in an appropriate manner. it sounds like she is just trying to get back at you for the shared property situation. people can be so petty.

Answer 22

First off there is no law that says she has to wait for you to have a baby, and you should have kept it a secret. It is as if you were suggesting a good name. My sister said she liked the name Dylan, and when I used it, she took it as a compliment, she was proud she named my boy. Same thing happened when another sister said they liked the name Jake, she was thrilled I took her idea. So maybe you should take it as a compliment, and say to the little girl later, I named you honey. You put a pretty name out there, you don't own it, you should have kept quite. Just get over it. By the time you decide to be a mother, you will discover this name is already overused. It kinda already gets on my nerves, everybody wants to use the name Ava and Rose together. Overused already. Tell her that.