Would you be mad if.....?

Question

I know that names don't have an owner but I'm pregnant and I was discussing with my pregnant friend that was having a girl about names and I told her I didn't know what first name I wanted if I was having a girl but I knew 100% that the middle name was going to be "Love" she had told me that she was name her baby Makayla Jaslene and supposedly her she was 100% sure of it now she just had her baby and named her Jaslene Love!!! I'm so mad at her (it could be pregnant hormones) But that wasn't right! So now if I name give the middle name Love to my baby everyone is going to say that I copied her! And I can't be telling everyone the story of how she copied me! And yes I'm also having a girl! SO now I'm confused and mad! And we have the exact same friends and we're all very close so its hard.

Answer 1

I agree I would be upset too. She could have asked you if she could take your idea and shared with you that she really liked Love as a middle name. I think it a sort of back stabbing. This is why I'm not sharing my name for our daugter with any of our fiends. Even family ... My sister in law is a baby name taker...she has already done it twice!

Good luck and stick with Love. Tell everyone you've had that middle name idea for years and you made the mistake of sharing it. You didn't realize so many people would love it as much as you! They'll get the hint!

Answer 2

I would be mad too.  I named my son Evan David and a few months later my brother named his son Noah David. It was annoying but I honestly think I am the ONLY one that noticed.  I would stick with it.  At least she didn't copy your first name, that would be much worse.

Answer 3

I think love is a very pretty name, but maybe you could change it up a bit.  Here are suggestions:

Aimee (Pronounced "Amy", means "Love(d)" in French)

Jaime (J'aime means "I love" in French)

Adora

Adoree (Adorée means "Adored" in French)

Amore (Amour means love in French)

Amora

Cherie (My Darling - French)

Hope I helped

Answer 4

i feel exactly like u and had the same situation!! me and my sis-in-law were both pregnant and i had the name ashlyn faye picked out for a girl and john thomas for a boy... which was after my husband... she ended up nameing her daughter kiera ashlyn... i ended up having a boy, but now im pregnant again and still want the name... now im even more mad!! so i hear ya and dont feel bad for being mad!

Answer 5

Honestly I don't think my friends remember my daughter's middle name. Just name your child what you want and don't worry about what other people think or say. It is your child, your choice.

Answer 6

I would be too, it's mean, made you could her her the middle name love in a different language or something, like amore, you should be mad, that happened to my friend , her mom was pregnant and she told her mom that she wanted to name her daughter natalie and that what her mom named her baby

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Answer 7

i would be horribly mad.

in the future, dont tell any friends names you are planning.

Answer 8

i would be mad too. i see exactly where your coming from.

maybe you could find a name or word that means love an dis just as cute. like adore is higher up than love in france.

like Carla Adore

Shiloh Adore

Aubrey Adore

well im sure you get the point i am trying to make.  

Answer 9

I definately would be mad. But, I would stick with it and still name your daughter's middle name as Love. It's not your fault that she totally change her name and basically "took" your middle name. She can live with it, because I'm sure she knows that she did indeed take the name you wanted.  

Answer 10

I understand where your coming from, and I can understand why your mad. I probably would tell people that she stole the idea, even those yes, no one owns a name. I would probably tell my friend about it too, and for me it would probably be the end of the friendship. Maybe you can find  a name that means love, or find one better. Honestly, I don't care for the name. Love to me is a word or an emotion not a name. I went to school with a girl, her middle name was Lovella. That's probably as close as I'd ever come to naming a child love. I would personally thank her for showing you what kind of true friend she was to you.

Answer 11

I know how it feels. Just try to get something better than her name. Will tell a story here. Once in a village lived a rich man and poor man with same name. Dev. (It means God in my language). So the rich man gave some money to the poor man and said change your name. The poor man started calling himself Mahadev after that. (Mahadev means big God).

Answer 12

I would be very angry too!  It is not pregnancy hormones - I would never steal one of my friend's baby names.  It's Unwritten Mother Law not to intentionally steal another woman's baby name.  It's seems an even worse offense it being a friend who stole the name from you.  

I made a couple of questions last week last week with names that I'm 99.999% sure of using.  One of these names suddenly ended up in another woman's questions (like a day or two later), and I have a suspicion she got the name from me.  I don't even know this woman, my first inclination was anger.  (It's a nice name, I have to admit though... :) )  I'm cool about it now I guess (she's naming her baby something else anyway), but I can't imagine how you'd feel.  I'm really sorry.

Answer 13

Awww... that sucks hun! While that was very wrong of your friend to betray your trust like that, it is true that few will ever know your daughters middle name. You could still use the name Love if you really 'love' it that much :)

However, if you're set on choosing something a little different you could choose another name with the same meaning, or alternatively use another middle name with a different meaning altogether.

Here are some options to for you to consider. None of them have been made up by me; all of their meanings can be found online:

~ Love ~

~ Venus

~ Amorette

~ Amorina

~ Valentine, Valentina

~ Agape

~ Aphrodite

~ Adora, Adore

~ Amora

~ Darlene

~ Heart

~ Beau

~ Cute Name Alternatives ~

~ Philomena

~ Angel

~ Haze

~ Care

~ Belle, Bella

~ Jewel

~ Song

~ Crimson

~ Sky

~ Fate

~ Liv

~ Honey

~ Clover

~ Peach

~ Mercy

~ Patience

~ Prudence

~ Bless

~ Bliss

~ Prairie

~ Story

~ Solace

~ Sincerity

~ Promise

~ Charm

~ Wise

~ Daisy

~ Iris

~ Chance

~ Trust

~ Tru, True, Truth

~ Honor

~ Amity

Good luck sweetie!!! I hope this helps!!!

Answer 14

OH MAN I WOULD BE MAD!!! yes very mad!! BUT i agree you should still use the name if you choose to because by all rights YOU chose the name first she just happened to have her baby first, I think as a friend that was not cool AT ALL.  If my friend told me that I would NOT name my baby the same name, but some people are just more considerate of others, and what can you do now? she already named the baby, if you really want to name your baby with the name you chose to begin with, go for it, or incorporate it into her name somehow if you don't want it to be the exact same.... I just think she wasn't being a very good friend to you, for stealing your name choice, it would be completely different if you hadn't told her specifically that you wanted that middle name...... best wishes and congrats on your baby girl you lucky woman u!!! (i have a boy and i'm DYING for a little girl!!!)

Answer 15

Most people are not going to remember your baby girls middle name truthfully. I only know a couple of friends middle names, let alone their kids!!!

While that is super annoying, I would not pick a different name because of it.  I also would not go around spreading the story, if somebody does happen to ask i would simply say "I told her I was using that name and I guess she liked it too!" or something like that. I would not accuse your pal of "stealing" the name.  

Take a deep breath. It will all be okay !

Answer 16

It is a middle name, someone is bound to have it.  If it is that big of a deal talk to your friend.  Maybe it could be something you do with your friends, everyone that has kids at the same times does something to link them together.  Make it fun and cute.