Would you be offended if i told you this?

Question

i called one of my friends and i was like yeah i didnt want anything i was just bored and i havent talked to you n awhile. she was like u called me b/c u were bored and talked for awhile n hung up

did i do something wrong?

Answer 1

I would get offended because it makes it seem like you really don't Care about them and are using them as a last resort ot have some "entertainment."

I don't know about you, but it makes it look like this friend is only a fair whitered friend and you only talk to her when you are desperate..

in attempt to save you from being bored, which is NOT cool, as that's not how you treat friends.

Answer 2

I think you are hurt because she did not sympathize with your boredom.  After all, she did talk for a while.  You could have been boring to her.

I think you think she did something wrong.  

She did not.

In my opinion, you could be honest with her and say, Friend, I am so sorry I said I was bored so i called you, actually, I wanted to say, ......(say what you think would be more appropriate, then ask if if she will forgive you.  

It is always best to mend your fences, whether they are l just little cracks or big holes in relationship.

Answer 3

u said 'bored' and that might have hurt her... and even the way we speak matters...  

Answer 4

i would make it clear that you didnt mean to be offensive and tell her your sorry for hurting her.

Answer 5

bored makes her feel like she is the last person u would talk to it would offend me

Answer 6

Maybe you should have expressed yourself differently. Perhaps your wording was a little misleading. I know you probably meant it in the least harmless fashion, but some people only hear what they hear and don't take the time to read between the lines. If you are friends with this person than it should be easy to reconcile the situation. Go to her house or invite her for coffee. Explain to her that you never meant to hurt her feelings and that when you had said you were bored for the reason to call was no indication as to what you thought of her. Let her know that you missed talking to her and that you had not talked in awhile. Maybe this will clear things up. I hope for the best in your situation. Good luck.  

Answer 7

lol . no . you didnt do anything wrong . when i say that to people and they ask me that question , i say "yeah" and then we laugh it off .

not that serious . if your friend does think you did something wrong , let them get over it because im pretty sure he/she calls people when theyre bored too .

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Answer 8

Perhaps you should repeat the words "did i do something wrong?" 1000 times and alternate them with "so should i apologize?" as an act of penitence

and then phone again and tell them what you did then offer them $100.

Answer 9

I dont think you did anything wrong. I say stuff like that all of the time. My friends dont get mad.If you want to apologize you should, I doubt I would simply because friends should not be that defensive.

Answer 10

No you did not do anything wrong, what are friends for? To talk too when your bored,to share the happy times, the sad times and the down times. I think maybe your friend was having a bad day. Sorry she took it out on you.  

Answer 11

Well I see where you are coming from....You called her because you wanted to talk to her, but you didn't really have anything to say....she's your friend and you just wanted to talk..that's all.

BUT because you said you're bored she must have gotten offended, BUT I personally think she was being a little sensitive about it...and not really realizing that you didn't mean it in a bad way.  Is she a teenager?  Most teenagers are go throught that sensitive stage.

Anyway, Just be the better one and go ahead and apologize and tell her you didn't mean to offend her that you just wanted to talk to her and see what she's been up to etc etc.  Maybe tell her before she hung up on you, you were going to see if she wanted to come over and watch movies and have a facial night and popcorn or something like that.

PS I totally agree with the person above me.  My son texts and talks to people and many times will say I'm bored...it's just a teenager thing to say.

Answer 12

Well in the future I wouldn't tell someone you called them because you were bored. It is kind of like saying, "Well, I had nothing better to do so I thought I would call you." How would it make you feel?

Answer 13

She was having a bad day.

Dont apologize, its all on her.

Answer 14

You made it sound like she was a last resort because you had nothing else to do or no one to talk to. Whether or not that was your intention, that's how it came across. Call her and try to clear up the misconception. Tell her that's not what you meant. Good Luck.

Answer 15

I read the other responses. I wud not be offended. My friends and I say that all the time. I am bored, have not talked to you so lets catch up. It depends on the other person. Obviously she is not a close friend so leave her out of your comfy conversations. Too bad she will lose out on your friendship and closeness.

To make up, just say sorry once and leave it. Too bad for her.  

Answer 16

Yea u should tell her that ur sorry

Answer 17

It depends on the friend. I have a friend I call up and say "Hi, I'm just avoiding housework." She says me too and we chuckle about it. Of course I've known her for about 20 years. With a newer friend you never know how they're going to react. I don't think you said anything that awful.

Answer 18

hmm, probably should have just lead with the 'i haven't talked to you in a while and wanted to check in with you" line.  no one wants to be just boredom relief, trust me.  makes you feel like a pity call or something.  i'm sure it just came out wrong and i would definitely contact her some way and just tell her you didn't mean it like that.  not that you were bored and she was a good way to cure it, but that you finally had some free time and wanted to talk to her.  Good luck!

Answer 19

I would be offended to be told that a conversation with me was one step better than having nothing to do at all.

How hard would it have been for you to say, "I was just thinking about you and wanted to see how you were doing!"  Accomplishes the same purpose, but isn't insulting.

Answer 20

what is she 12?come on people....

Answer 21

yes i will get a bit of offending thinking that he does not care but calls only because he is bored so it will hurt...