Would you be offended if someone commented on your baby's chubbiness..?

Question

Today someone called my 7 month old daughter chubby, I believe their exact words were "She looks like she's been in a good paddock!".. It wasn't really in a positive manner either, it was in more of a "My kids weren't that chubby.." kind of way..

Well I'll agree that she is probably the chubbiest she's ever been, seeing as she's been on solid food for a while and isn't crawling yet.. But she's not exactly HUGE either.. It's really just her cheeks that are chubby.. The rest of her is quite long and skinny.. =P

Anyway, would you consider this persons comments rude and unnecessary? Or am I being too touchy about it? =)

Answer 1

Well my opinion is a chubby baby really means super cute, but if thats not the way that it was said then it was definitely rude.  My sisters son is 10 months and he weighs 24 pounds, and we hear so many comments about him but it's hilarious because he's huge.  Dont take it as an insult, just know that your keeping her healthy (and she will crawl and walk it off soon)

Answer 2

That is rather rude for anyone to say. I would have come back with, "We are so blessed that she's such a healthy girl!" - plenty of kids are bigger as babies and toddlers and turn into slender kids as they grow. Mine all did. I had really big healthy babies and they were breastfed (my diet was excellent) and as long as the doctors said they were healthy, I wasn't concerned. All mine had chipmunk cheeks too! I loved the fat rollies on their thighs too (2 of my daughters had some good ones). They are so skinny now as teens I have to remind them to put a belt on sometimes! My 11 yr old is a little skinny green bean I swear! Now I have people saying my son is not as big and strong as their kids. My son is lean and muscular and their kids are chunky fat - I'm pretty sure mine can outrun their's any day.

You're always going to have idiots make rude comments, just ignore them and raise a confident child! Best Wishes!!!

Answer 3

Very rude.  What is wrong with people.

Answer 4

i consider it rude

Answer 5

If she was comparing her kids to your kid and said it in a condescending way....than yeah, that's kinda rude. What's wrong with chubby babies? I think chunky babies are the cutest!

Answer 6

Unnecessary and rude...just forget about it that person doesn't know what they're talking about

all baby's are  'chubby'  but that's because they NEED it to keep warm and to have padding for protection..the person could of said it a lot nicer!

and don't be concerned about it. baby's have to have fat on them (but it's good fat, don't worry).

Answer 7

If someone said it like this person did I would probably be offended. It doesn't sound like they said it nicely. And the whole comparing yours to mine attitude is very annoying. I don't think you're being too touchy. If they said it the right way I wouldn't get offended becuase all babies are chubby to an extent especially before they start crawling, but you have every right to feel that way when they're just spouting off insults.  

Answer 8

My son weighed 18 lbs when he was 6 months old.  My older daughter weighed 18 lbs when she was 1.  I think I was the one pointing my sons weight out more than anyone else.  Still it is sort of rude for someone else to do it.

Answer 9

Well a lot depends on tone, but generally no I'm not offended.

My first was a huge chubbly-wubbly and I got a lot of comments, but they all seemed good-natured.

Actually I love the way black people fuss over chubby babies.  Always followed with a quiet "breastfed right" and then fussing over me for breastfeeding.  They are really positive and it can't help but make you feel good too.  

Answer 10

I hate that c**p. Ever since my son was born, "Wow, he's such a big boy!... Wow, look at those fat legs!..." The list goes on. The child is not fat.. he is really tall and proportional. People are just so used to seeing these stick thin babies. I'm sorry if I offend anyone with that, but it's the truth where I live. People don't take care of themselves or their babies.

Answer 11

A nurse called my son "A long, lanky bean-pole" - I was offended!

I'd be offended with a chubby comment too.

Answer 12

well it depend on your perspective on life .

i would say he was just born a chubby baby . most baby's are chubby . so i wouldnt be that ofended

Answer 13

In general, I'm not offended that people call my son chubby.  Babies are SUPPOSED to be chubby, I figure it's a sign that I'm doing something right.  However, if it was in a negative manner, sure, I'd be offended.  I'd likely make a comment right back, but that's just cause I'm ornery. ;)

I actually get many, many more "He's so tiny!!" comments, because my son is VERY short.  Those don't really offend me either, because they're right-- he is tiny. I just say he's well-proportioned. :)

Answer 14

I think the manner she said it in is rude.  

Answer 15

I love, love, love chubby babies.  My daughter has huge cheeks and I just want to eat them with a knife and fork, LOL!

But if that person said it in a negative tone then yes, it's rude.  But don't listen to them.  Some people put others down so make themselves feel better.  Your baby sounds lovely and healthy.

Answer 16

Yeah, I think it is rude!! My baby is chubby, but when people tell me that she is, I say when she starts walking it will go away.

Answer 17

I would say it's kind of rude in the manner that she said it.

I wish my daughter was chubby. I always get comments on how small she is. Lol. She's almost 15 weeks old and the only fat thing on her is her cheeks, like you said about your daughter. I wish she would get some fat on her, so she could fit into some of her clothes better! Baby clothes are meant for more chubbier babies.

Answer 18

yes i had the same issue with my son he is a chunk for his age but he is also tall but he wasnt always tall so he was just a chunk and i would have to listen to oh he is sochunky and cute i just want to pinch his cheeks. i had encountered a few rude people but i would just brush it off cuz i knew that my son was happy and healthy and if he was chunky so be it he would grow into it eventually

Answer 19

Ive had someone comment on my baby's size before in weight and length as she was born long and chubby (which is always cuter i think!!)..Considering i never knew the lady it was quite cheeky for her to say her exact words where ' That's not a baby!! That's a f***ing toddler!! ' I was very offended yes!!  

Answer 20

It is rude, but don't worry over it for too long. Babies need to store a certain amount of fat so that when they grow, they will remain healthy. As long as you aren't feeding her too many sweets and giving her healthy foods like veggies, fruits, etc. than she will probably be fine! You have to be a little 'touchy' about things when it comes to your kids. It is perfectly normal, and natural because you don't want people making fun of your little angel(s)!

Hope I helped!

Answer 21

I have been in your shoes and I considered it extremely rude. We were in a restaurant and the waitress said to us "Your baby is so fat! i love fat babies!" She couldn't really see her because she was in her car seat, but while my daughter does have chubby cheeks, the rest of her body is long and nowhere near as chubby as her cheeks. The waitress kept on repeating that our baby was so fat and fat babies are the cutest. So it was a compliment and an insult at the same time, but she thought it was a compliment only.

So no, you are not being too touchy. It is so rude to tell someone their baby is so fat or so skinny. Can't babies just be cute?

Answer 22

I have three kids, none of whom look anything like they used to as babies.  In fact the chubbiest as a baby is now the skinniest "bean pole" and at eleven years old I know she is going to change more and grow more.  Is your daughter hurt by this persons comments?  If not should you be dwelling on it?

Offense is kind of a decision that we make.  If we decide to be offended by someones rudeness or lack of consideration then we have decided to give them power by letting them determine our next actions.  Words are things that fall out of peoples mouths and it's up to us to pick them up and put them in our ears.  If she meant to hurt your feelings and belittle your daughter, then she's a mean person and doesn't belong in your life (whether you are getting along or not).  On the other hand maybe she was just trying to be funny and it just came out wrong, what you may have heard as a malicious tone could have been jittery talk because she drank too much coffee.  You  don't have to be offended by this.  Just by asking this question on-line you have recognized that.  So I think the best option with this and ALL offense is to leave it on the floor.  Why not just decline the offer of conflict and go on about your day?

Answer 23

Well if i am to understand her comment correctly she was obviously saying your baby was well fed....and if it was in a negative tone, then she most likely was saying over fed.

i find that terribly rude. My middle son was a very chubby baby...in fact his nickname for the first year was Chunk.

i love chubby babies. they are adorable.

but everyone has their own opinion about weight, especially the weight of babies.

my youngest son is very "chubby" too, his nickname has also been Chunk. lol i don't mind when someone comments on it in a positive way, i know they mean no offense.

but there are some people that seem to have a real nerve, and they comment rudely.

i don't acknowledge those people's comments. they are either purposely looking for an argument or are rude w/out really understanding that they are being rude.

the ones that seem ignorant of their rude comments i usually say, "Well better to be fed than not." and walk away. who needs an argument w/such a person anyways?

the ones that i can tell are purposely rude and looking for an argument..i say NOT A WORD to them. i don't even smile at them as i walk away. i just give them the once over, and then walk off. LOL that really ticks them off, and i never even have to say anything. people like that are not deserving of my time, so i deny them of it.

Answer 24

Because of the manner it was said I'd call it rude...if they were being cutesy about it and saying someyhing like "what a little chubster" then I'd say let it go.  

Answer 25

I think it's rude in the way it was said.

My baby was born 9 lbs even. Everyone marvels about how big she is. My MIL constantly says that she looks 3 months old! She's three weeks! She's not that big! My MIL had another grandchild born 2 days after my Sally, and he was a lot smaller (mom's a smoker). She talks about how little and cute he is. I want to say, "Yeah, well, I wish there was a drug I could have taken to make my baby little and cute. Oh well, I guess I just have to live with her being healthy."