Would you be upset if your husband went off to:?

Question

I worked very hard all week and even worked overtime. I was asked to stay late and I did because it wasn't really a choice.

I had a weekend off coming up and my husband asked me if I wanted to go to scottland with him and his mother. I said no I'd rather spend my time with him.

He wanted to go with his mother because she bought a bike there without asking us ahead of time if we could bring her to scottland to pick it up. Then just expected us to go ahead.

My husband was going to ditch me on my weekend off and go with his mother to scottland after I said I didn't want to go because he thought that he was doing the right thing.

I threw a royal fit and he thinks I am being unreasonable.

What do you think?

Answer 1

I totally see where you are comming but wouldent you think that if you wanted to spent time with him you would go?? Men have this thing about their mothers which is natural but innoying. I hate to say it but if what you really want is to hang with your hubby just grin and bare it. On the plus side you can say that you will go and have a good time with them but that later he owes you. Good luck

Answer 2

I think that he knows you'll allow him to do this and he'll continue to do so unless you put a stop to it.

You don't pitch a fit, you don't make him choose between you and his mother....

You go OUT!  You make plans of your own, make sure you aren't at HIS beckon call and see how he appreciates you then.

Answer 3

Do you really want to throw a fit over this.  Years from now...I think you will regret making such a big deal over this.  Learn to pick your battles, sweetie.

Answer 4

i have raised shire horses for over 40 years and during this time i have had to take many shire horses related trips... had my wife done this to me i would have written her out of the will and demoted her to cleaning the horse poo from the stalls.

Answer 5

Yes, you are. Either go with him, or shut up. Don't make him choose, because even if he choose you, he will resent it. It will fester. You need to quit thinking of this as a contest and more as a friendship and partnership.

Answer 6

I agree with him.  You had your chance and blew it.

Answer 7

you are being unreasonable. Consider others you just might be rewarded.

Answer 8

I think you are being unreasonable also.  He is going with his mom to do her a favor.  He asked you to go.  

It sounds like it could have been fun .  I would have gone.  It may have done you good to get away.  

If you are to tired from working then maybe it would do you better to stay home and relax while he is gone.    

Answer 9

Like someone said above - Men have a thing for there moms. They like to spend time with there mommys. Its odd.

Anyways, I just put it behind me and mumble it off. (Question - Does he see him mom allot?)  

Answer 10

I would expect it. If someone asks my husband for help and he says he will give it he will not go back on his word. I could not ask him to.  I would go with them. You will still be able to spend time with him you will just have to share.  

Answer 11

How could you even have a good time with him at home knowing that his MOM has no way to go pick up her bike?  So everyone has to walk on eggshells because you worked a little overtime this week?  What's up with that?  Your husband had better go because if he doesn't he's a p*ssy.