Would you be upset if your spouse was not living up to their potential?

Question

my wife wishes i would show off my smart side more, i don't feel the need to make myself appear to be smarter than i really am.

she told me that if i don't improve my intelligences then she would have to consider not being with me! cuz she is not interested in being with someone she considers not very smart

is this a reason to leave someone?

Answer 1

If your wife cannot accept you at a level where you are comfortable and yourself, Then call her bluff, and let the chips fall where they may. No one should be controlled.

Answer 2

Certain people have higher standards than most. I would never be married to a man who was a moron, or who couldnt carry on a conversation past the usual jokes and talking about his day. I want to have intellegent conversations and talk about the issue of today, and I get to do that with my husband. She doesnt feel like shes connecting with you on an emotional level and she really wants to. It sounds like she doesnt want to be with someone who she cant talk to. I say go to college, and try learning about current events. You might get really into it, and youll keep your wife.

Answer 3

are u serious??? she married u the way you are! how are earth are u gonna leave someone cause they arent smart enough one day. blimey! what happened to meaning your marriage vows!!??

no...that is not a reason to leave ur spouse!  

Answer 4

lol this is ridiculous is she cheating because i really don't get it

Answer 5

It is nice to be able to have intelligent conversation with someone.  showing off, however, is another thing.  She knew the person you were before she married you.  What makes this difference now?  Is she trying to impress someone else.  Ask her if impressing someone else is more important than the love and relationship you and she have.  If it is, let her go.  She is being superficial!

Answer 6

It is a very strange behaviour on the part of your wife.

She needs to be more reasonable and content with life .

If she insists on leaving you for just this reason that you wish to appear as you are, then I only feel sad for her and hope that she does not have to regret her decision later.

Answer 7

Why don't you tell her that you have been 'dumbing' yourself down all these years so she wouldn't feel intimidated by your intelligence.

Let the ***** go.

Answer 8

Yes for me it is. Not really fair of your wife as this is changing the goalposts when she knew what she was getting into. I suppose sometimes you hope someone will change. And hey, change is good...I always strive to improve myself. Mixing things up keeps a relationship alive. But yeah I guess it is up to her...and up to you. You could also take this in a good way - she is telling you her needs. Have a go at telling her yours & maybe meet in the middle somewhere?