Would you be upset if your teenage babysitter did this?

Question

She's been watching your 3 kids (ages 6, 4, and 3) since last October (about 3 times a week). Just turned 17 years old, and loves your kids. Your kids love her. She actually plays with them (has a "no tv if i can help it" rule). helps them with HW, etc. and also with cleaning up. she bathes them, puts them to bed, cooks for them. and after they go to bed, she cleans the rest of the house, and has done laundry on occasion. a very responsible young person. but then you see her school binder and on the back, you see pictures of YOUR kids. on HER binder. and also things they have made for her, etc. but would you be upset that she's carrying around your kids pictures for the whole world to see.

Answer 1

i see nothing wrong with this at all infact the mum should be proud that she trully cares for her children xxxxx

Answer 2

If she's been babysitting them that long, she probably really cares for them and takes them as her younger siblings.  As long as she's not living in some tv like fantasy where she thinks she's their mother, there is nothing wrong with displaying their pictures.  

Answer 3

i think there is no problem with that bcuz the baby sitter is not a boy but not to be mean like it ok cuz she like a close friend to them so i dont see the problem

Answer 4

I think its quite sweet but i could understand if the mam felt a little upset. Why not just carry a picture round with her in her purse then the whole world wont see and she'll still see them. She's obviously got a strong bond with them i mean she's lookign after them 3 times a week and she's obviously doing a really good job of it. x x

Answer 5

I think it would be okay if the parents are okay with it.

Answer 6

I'm not a parent or actually an adult but i think if you don't want your kids to be seen by everyone confront the babysitter and ask her if she can move the pictures of the kids on the inside of the binder so only she can see them or just remove them all together.  

Answer 7

know that is not good because anything can go wrong she should just tell her she does not like that

Answer 8

If someone obviously relys heavily on this babysitter if she's cleaning the house and helping with homeowrk and if she "loves" the kids and they "love" her than what's the problem?  They are part of her life and she has pictures of them.  Who cares?  Someone should be so lucky to have such a "very responsible young person" that can be trusted.   I hope they are paying well, if not it's time to ask for a raise.  

Answer 9

No, I wouldn't, i'd actually be quite touched as long as she knew she wasn't really to be giving them out to random people/strangers.  She obviously adores them and they mean a lot to her, possibly like younger siblings, so wants to show them off! I think it's quite cute. I'd ask the parents first though, to be sure, and put them isnide the binder on the back cover.

Answer 10

Lol, I was expecting something worse for some reason. As sweet as that is, she should ask the parents. Believe it or not, the mom might get a little jealous. (I only say that because I didn't expect being jealous over my mother-in-law for babysitting my two month old). Sometimes people read into stuff much more different than how you think they would so she should just ask just to be on the safe side.

Answer 11

Not at all.  Why?  I'm sure she loves those kids.  Just because she isn't the parent, doesn't mean she doesn't care about and love the children she has been looking after for nearly 1 year.

Answer 12

I would ask the parents, I wouldn't think it would be a big deal, but some people are strange about that.  As a parent myself, I wouldn't care if somebody I trusted wanted to put my children's picture in a binder.  When I was younger and babysat a lot, I always carried pics around of the children I babysat for, so I could show my friends.  I don't think it would be a big deal.

Answer 13

No i would be flattered if some one did that  

Answer 14

You have to be very careful nowadays....tooooo many 'weirdos' out there.   If she 'has' to carry something around, I would carry some of their artwork....never their photos.

Answer 15

Yes! I would be upset

Answer 16

She obviously has a good relationship with your kids then it would be natural that she has things to remind her of them.

If you are uncomfortable with this, just ask her to remove them and I'm sure she will.

Hope this helps.

Answer 17

i don't see a problem with that. she is probably a child lover. i'm like that. i'm very close to my nephews and show off their pictures and drawings everywhere. Maybe even she's got that maternal instinct and just loves what she does.

Answer 18

She should ask the parents if its ok.  I don't see the harm in it, but some parents may be uneasy about having pictures of their children for the public to see.  As for the things they made for her, that seems fine.

Answer 19

I think it is O.K. If not sure  ask everybody involved.

Answer 20

Why not just ask the parent if it's ok? I don't think it would be a big deal. :)  

Answer 21

Not at all, they obviously mean a lot to her! I think its nice she has done this. Not a lot of teenage kids would have this much time for younger children.

Answer 22

I wouldn't be upset about this in the slightest.  She loves the kids, they love her, from the sounds of it she's practically a member of the family.  

People carry around pictures of their family/friends with them all the time, it's not that big of a deal.  

I wouldn't get upset over this, it's a good thing for them to be close, so why shouldn't she show off the pictures?

Answer 23

I'd be fine with it. It shows how much she cares about them. I'd be a little upset if she put pics of my son online but a binder isn't a big deal. =]

Answer 24

As a parent, I'd be PROUD of the fact that she was so great with my kids. It is HARD to find someone you can even trust, let alone find someone who so obviously LOVES the children.

She's is taking NOTHING away from the parents by showing off pictures (just keep them OFF MySpace & the like, that makes me uncomfortable personally). I think it's a good thing.

Answer 25

i wouldn't be upset. what bad can come from this? and who would know that they are your kids, and if they did know, what can they do? it seems like this babysitter is a keeper, focus on the good stuff that she brings your children

Answer 26

If this hasn't happened yet, np.  Ask the parents or have her ask the parents.

Answer 27

I was a nanny for a while and i had pics of me with the baby and just of the baby all over my binders

go for it

they are close and she is like a sibling to them so go for it i see no problem

Answer 28

Your friend sounds a little obsessive.  

Answer 29

I personally wouldn't care but some parents would.  Your friend should just leave them off.

Answer 30

It would be polite to ask the parents first in case they have any objections or concerns about their kids pics being carried around or put out in public.

Answer 31

I would ask the parents. I have a picture of my fiance with her whole family on it. so I guess its ok if she really wants to. as long as it is ok with the parents