Would you believe on your husband?

Question

everytime i saw him on the internet chatting he always say that its nothing but the way i look at it its not, i caught him having s*x on the internet and he told me that im stupid because i cannot understand it, i should feel lucky because im his wife and that girl is only on the internet. But the problem is he's always there everyday i go home in the evening then wake up in the morning he's still at the garage with his computer, now im planning to leave him but i dont know how he gonna realize that im emotionally in pain

Answer 1

Track his history and gather evidence before you approach him again.  I just did this with mine and he denied it all!!! However he hasnt checked in to his site for the last few days.... probably gone and opened a new account..... sado!

I know the pain you are going through.  Email me if you like...

Answer 2

Sounds like he doesn't care if you leave. I would just pack up and head out. Have you told him that you want out of the marriage b/c of his negligence.. to you? Have that talk and if it solves nothing..go.  

Answer 3

It's like he's trying to make you think your as weird and stupid as he's treating you.

On my way out the door, I'd break that computer in a million pieces!!

Answer 4

I haven't been through this situation, but I do know a couple of people who have.  The internet is just another place, like a club, where people can meet for random hook-ups.  If he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong he's going to continue until things escalate.  

I can't tell you what to do, but I am aware of three marriages that have broken up because of meeting people on the internet (Xbox Live), etc.

I know that this is hard for you, but only you know what is best for you. Be strong and do what you need to do.

Answer 5

Your husband is a jerk. He is being very disrespectful and he isn't going to change. Maybe you leaving him will realize what he is doing is unacceptable. He is not going to change as long as you're still there. Leaving can either make or break the relationship.  

Answer 6

hes addicted to cyber s*x and he needs help and the computer needs to be unplugged. document everything, you might need it if things go really badly. best of luck to you

Answer 7

It might be more fun if you joined him in cybersexing. My wife and I have a lot of fun with it, then we have hot s*x together. Lighten up.

Answer 8

I agree with the 1st answer - he is addicted to cybersex.  Below are some articles:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/internet...

http://www.way2hope.org/signs_of_sexual_...

http://addiction.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Cyb...

http://www.cybersexualaddiction.com/love...

The fact that he says that you should "feel lucky"  because you're his wife and that girl is only in the internet indicates he feels that he is doing nothing wrong and that he doesn't give a flip about how you feel.  How would he like it if you were having cybersex and you gave him that response???  Currently it is in the on-line stage - who's to say he won't end up taking that next step and meeting people in person?  That is usually what happens next.

If you are a religious person, perhaps talking to your religious leader would help.  There also may be support groups in your area as well.  Good luck.

Answer 9

If he doesn't see it is hurting you by now, he never will.  I'd get on his computer and block that site and then leave.  

WHAT A PIG!  Sorry your dealing with that!

Answer 10

Leaving him is not the solution. There are so many men who do that. These are very silly reason for one should leave a husband. Try to give him more of your time and be sensible in handling him. The time he is tempted to sit divert his mind. plan some outing or create some need etc etc. woman has to be smart if you want a balanced married life!

Answer 11

It's not nothing. He's investing intimacy into a relationship with someone else. You understand it perfectly. And it stinks like a week-dead skunk. And that dead skunk is going to linger there under the porch as long as it goes on. Before you leave, make it absolutely clear (no yelling - this is serious stuff) that it hurts you, it's a thing he chooses to do, and he needs to work out why he feels the need to do it, because it's a deal breaker for you. You know, it's one thing that he started it. It's not something you would do. Apparently it's something he would try. But, knowing that it hurts you, his next move tells you if computer s*x is more important to him than being with you. Him telling you you're stupid says a lot. It's time to find out if you guessed wrong when you joined up with him or not. (Sorry, dear. I'm thinking you guessed wrong.)