Would you call of wedding when he says he is confused cause of someonelse?

Question

if your fiancee told you after three days together after 6 longs months of separation cause of his work that his gf for 17 years have come back would you believe or its just an excuse to break up the relationship?or call off the wedding?

and when you walk aways from the hotel room he doesnt even care anymore, no text or call or emails.But he hasnt deleted pictures in your myspace as her wife supposed to be?do you think he is just really confused or just want to spend time to go on strrppers bars alone cause when i visit him one night to talk he was out doent even want to return my calls.Should i just leave him and never try again?I felt like i did my part already talk to him and give him a chance if we can fix everything.Am i eating my pride too much?It hurts terribly.

Answer 1

i think that he likes the old flame better. he is hurting YOU bc of HER. you need to grab whatever dignity you have left, and move on.

Answer 2

I think you really need to talk before getting into a mess.

Answer 3

leave with your dignity,this man has gone back to the other woman, if he is confused about who he loves, u need to cut all ties with him and move on away from him, he will only hurt u worse in the long run.men use all kinds of excuses when they want to be with someone else, but his actions speak volumes, he is showing u he just doesn't want to be with u anymore, so why invest any more time in it. i know it hurts,but u can't talk sense to a person who isn't sensible.just face reality and look at what his behavior towards u is saying.

Answer 4

Eating your pride will hurt if it isn't chewed before you swallow. Spit it out and start over.

This guy is a boy who hasn't grown into manhood. A girlfriend of 17 yrs. is an indication he can't or won't commit.

If he's holding onto current photos and such he's only hedging on the idea of coming back to you if things don't work out; provided said girl is back in the picture.

I'm sorry for your choice in such a pathetic guy. You can I'm sure do much, much better. Good luck to you dear.

Answer 5

Let me try to understand...you two were separated for 6 months because of his work?  Three days later he tells you he's confused about who he wants to be with?

You really can't go by what he has on his Myspace, anyone and everyone can join in.  It's a public forum/place.  Those two have a history and they can still be friends.

However,

If he told you that he's confused - it's your duty to call off the wedding.

The reason being - that he doesn't know if he wants to be with you, AND you don't know if he wants you.

How could you marry someone, or rely on them to show up to the ceremony, if they are not sure about going through with it?

If he's confused, then, it's time to reconsider that maybe he's not really in love with you.  It's his duty to fight for you if he wants you - meanwhile he's done one of the worst things a man can do - and that is to break your heart at a critical moment in your relationship when you've thought this was a done deal, THE ONE true love.

It hurts terribly - but it would hurt even more if you've married and he continues to have doubts and leaves you.

It's better now, where you don't have to deal with divorce and other legal issues.

Answer 6

Definitely call it off.  A MARRIAGE IS A SERIOUS COMMITMENT. CHILDREN WILL MAKE IT 10X THAT MORE SERIOUS.  It is hard enough getting and staying married when you really want to do it.  This confusion and pain is BAD BAD BAD.  I can tell you from years of experience (15 years of marriage) marriage is hard, juggling work, time for children, cleaning, cooking, paying bills, money management, going to club meetings with the children.  You don't want to go in with confusion at the start.  Put your pride aside.  Walk away.  Find someone, after the hurt is gone, that wants to go into the marriage without the extra problems.

Answer 7

looks like he got cold feet  to me.he's scared to get married and not have the liberty to see other women.