Would you call this cheating?

Question

If you are married and you go out to eat with a past female lover, and the female is someone with whom you've had a child, absolutely nothing happens, not even flirting, but you want to keep in contact with the mother of your child. You go out to eat but nothing further happens, until she takes you back to your car and she tries to kiss you goodbye, to which you reply, "I can't, I'm married." She says, "It's just a peck!" and you give her the quickest grandma kiss ever and then leave.

Would you call this cheating? If it happened between two business partners (instead of two past lovers) would you call that cheating?

Why is it that when two business partners go out to eat and discuss business details over dinner that it isn't cheating? Or would you consider that cheating too?

Answer 1

it's how you think about it actually, well it's not a big deal..BUT if there's a person who would be effected by the situation,( some person see you kissing) like situation...you should think twice....!

Answer 2

it depends on if his feelings were in it.

Answer 3

Absolutely not! your husband is doing the right thing all the way around you definitely should feel good about this and praise him. He did not kiss his ex and told her about his relationship. what she does neither of you can control, but hopefully soon she will stop because she will realize that she won't get what she wants! You need not feel insecure about this matter at all, although he needs to associate with his ex for the sake of the kid as you know. You've dealed with this very well and I commend you for it, but the kid remains hence the stupid ignorant ex remains as well...hang in there sounds like you got yourself a good husband. I truly and honestly believe he has no intentions on cheating otherwise he would not have told you what happened. Have faith...throw the negative thoughts in the trash they will only do harm to you and your relationship!

Answer 4

Well, he shouldnt have even given the peck, but I would consider it cheating because if you were with the person long enough to have a child, you would know if she was feeling you again enough to kiss you.I would still consider it cheating in the second scenario with the business partners if he said nothing and still gave the peck, because he never stated it was unwelcome or wrong. I think the dinner part would be ok in both scenarios if there was no kissing or attraction at the end.

Answer 5

not really cheating it matters the most on who thinks it is if your wife says it is then do not let it happen again

Answer 6

I think it depends on the partners, and where this is happening. Some cultures this is perfectly normal.

I spoke to my partner in the early stages of our relationship and we defined what we thought was 'cheating' and what wasn't considered cheating.

If this is happening to you, the fact that your partner told you about it makes it sound like it wasn't cheating.  If he would have hidden it from you then I would say it was.  

Answer 7

No, and no. It isn't cheating. That is, unless you're really, really neurotic.

Answer 8

Regardless of whether they were business partners or ex lovers, whether there was romance or not, any actions or behaviors (of either two) which can not be conducted in front of their own spouses, would probably be considered cheating regardless of it's insignificance.  

Answer 9

In a stable relationship this doesn't qualify as cheating even if you still have feelings for each other. You have kids together and will always have residue of the other partner in your life as long as you live.

Keeping it platonic is the key. If you are feeling uncomfortable maybe your subconscious is telling you that you may be vulnerable and you need to keep the signs of affection to a minimum .

If your marriage is not solid, your wife may have concerns and if she is the jealous type you are definitely cheating in her mind!

Answer 10

Why does she insist that it's just a peck.  When someone does not want to be kissed, then why insist or persuade? And I would not consider a grandma's kiss cheating.

Two business partners having a business relationship and nothing more than a platonic relationship going out to eat is not called cheating because there is no romantic involvement between the two.  

Answer 11

No, I wouldn't call it cheating. But it's not what > I < would choose to call it in this circumstance...it's your relationship, so all that matters is what YOU choose to call it.

Answer 12

There should be no dinner between ex lovers or such. Those exchanges should be done through an attorney or by phone.  Any papers needing to be signed should be signed at the courthouse or the attorney's office.

There should be no dinners between ex lover coworkers either.  The meeting should be held in the office in an appropriate setting.

I would not call it cheating, just disrespecting your new partner, and poor judgment.

Answer 13

No it is not cheating if he went home and told his wife about it.  Also, what in the h**l could he do about it,  if he says no then the talk they just had becomes wierd.  if he gives her a grandma peck and walks away....everyone is happy and the eavening meal is still about the children.  

I do not think it was acceptable on the ex's part to initiate the kiss though

Answer 14

idk if i'd call it cheating, but i'd definitely call it inappropriate. if he didn't want to kiss her she should have left it at that. why would she want a kiss from him anyway if nothing was going on. and i'd feel the same way if it was business partners.

Answer 15

If it is two business partners then the one who wanted the peck is trying to cause more to happen because business partners do not kiss.  I would advise the other one who is not interested not to have dinner alone with them anymore.  

If it is the Mother of a child, and they are just good friends then I would not call it cheating, although again, the person iniating the peck want might more.

Answer 16

It's cheating if you wouldn't do it with your partner in the room.

Answer 17

Business partners discussing business usually don't have a choice about it, and it's usually so boring nothing can happen anyway. Did you tell your wife about the dinner before hand? If not, then it would look like it's because your guilty of something. Maybe you should even bring you wife along next time to show her nothings happening so she doesn't feel insecure about it. If I were you I would avoid kissing all together - no matter how chaste and grandmotherly-like. It would be a bad - and suspicious - idea for business partners, but even a worse idea for old flames.

Answer 18

thats wrong u should be having All those dinner with the wife

en kisses nop all wrong