Would you change schools again?

Question

My son is in kindergarden, he started school in Michigan then moved down to florida three months later, he has been in this new school for two months and I'm moving into a new school district but I can't decide if I wanna have him change schools again or let him stay in the one he is currently in.

Reason for moving so much is because my mom got sick and we moved to Florida to be closer to her incase she needed some help and we moved in with her, now we have the money to get our own place so we have to move again.

Answer 1

Honestly for your sons sake I would move as little as possible.  As a child in preschool through 10th grade I attended a different school every year sometimes two or three different schools a year and it is absolutely traumatizing.  Despite the fact that no permanent friends can be made your son probably feels like he doesn't have one place to call his own.

My parents are still moving around but I made them send me to boarding school for junior and senior year just so I have  a place I can feel like I can call home.

I wouldn't want this feeling for your son.

Answer 2

u should talk to ur son and see what he wants and if he want to stay then i think u should let him

Answer 3

If it is possible perhaps you can move but still let him attend the same school even if it is in a different school district.  I do not know the laws down in Florida but in Ohio it is allowed.

Answer 4

Hello how are you? I believe you have to really weigh your options here. I believe quite often we take the wisdom of our children, concerning how they feel or are being affected by any given situation. Ask your son how he feels about  having to move again, ask him how does he like the school he's in now and does he want to stay or leave. Children are wiser than we really know and they actually do know how they feel more than we will ever know. You do want to be careful concerning decisions about constant & spontaneous change vs Constant stability. Children need stability and a sense of security that says "this is where I belong, this is my home". Unfortunately situations do arise where we as parent's have to make some hard but uncontrollable decisions. I would say, for the sake of your sons stability and sense of security and belonging, if the school is not far from your new home then let him stay but if it will cause any unnecessary untolerable burdens, then explain to him that this next move will be the last and make sure to reassure him until he finally feels like it's safe enough to call home. This will not only impact him as a child but it will also greatly impact him positively as a man.

Answer 5

I would keep him in the same school district til the end of the school year that is not that much longer. I know for a fact that schools will allow you to do this as long as you put your request in writing. Although I agree with you that it is not tramitizing, I do think it is hard making friends, and forming attachments and having to leave them. Although you said you moved every two years, did you not have some trouble making new friends. I agree with you it is not as hard as when you are older. Younger kids make friends easier. Also, you child has gotten used to the routine and it just would be easier to continue with that. Also, todays kindergarteners are required to know more today when they leave kindergarten than when you and I were in kindergarten. There is a teaching difference from school to school. My teenage daughter has just changed schools from Waltham, Ma to Gloversville Ny and she will tell you some things one school is ahead on and the other one is behind on. She is a junior in High School. This is a much harder transaction, but she made it. They say what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger.Good luck.