Would you change your religion for someone you love?

Question

My friend is engaged and she is considering getting baptized for her fiancee. He wants her to even though she doesn't believe in it. Who out there would do that for someone they love? and do you think it's sweet that she would do it or a bad thing?

Answer 1

No. Why? Because if someone didn't respect me and love me enough to accept me just as I am, then they can't love me enough.

Answer 2

Hi, Loafie~The Tourist is my Lover

I think it is a noble thing for her to do if she can accept his faith and not battle against it when he wants to attend religious activities.

The Bible tells us that if your unbelieving mate is pleased to live with you, then you will be saved, see 1 Corinthians   7:12   But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.  

  7:13   And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.  

  7:14   For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.  

  7:15  

"But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.  

  7:16   For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save [thy] husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save [thy] wife?  

  7:17   But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches."

Thirty-five years ago I had a mate that cursed and threw coffee in my face before church. God gave me rest after several years, meanwhile she ran with a pack of divorces who bar hopped.  She has never found the peace that the world falsely offers.

For my new mate, we work in harmony and have the "peace that passes understanding."

Have your friend read http://abiblecode.com  as it proves Jesus is exactly who He is, and explains why there was so much killing in the name of God.

Shalom, peace in Jesus, Ben Yeshua  

Answer 3

thats a dangerous thing for her to do that bc that mean she is a fake. and the fiancee is trippin but thats what happens when you pervert the order of God, bc IF he had s*x with that girl b4 their souls are tied which makes it hard for ppl to let go of each other, AND yes you can get your soul tied with anything.ppl and materials,pets, etc

Answer 4

i didn't change my religion for my husband...but i did change it to my husbands religion...and have no regrets at all...i'm a Christian now...grew up in an atheistic Buddhist society...life is much more enjoyable than before...

Answer 5

Not sweet at all. It's dishonest to pretend to like something you don't. It will come up later as one more problem that will sink the ship.

Answer 6

You have to except Jesus before you can be Baptised?????

How can this be any thing other than empty ritual? but it don't surprise me in the least.

But yes I changed my faith for Love! Now I Love Jesus more than life.

Answer 7

No, because no matter what, I love God more.

Your friend can't be baptised if she doesn't believe. For a start, the church most probably won't let her, and also, it wouldn't mean anything!

Answer 8

He does not love her truly.If he did he would have accepted her for who she was with or without belief.  

Answer 9

I think it would be sweeter if they each respected the others beliefs enough to let them stay that way.

To answer your question, no, I wouldn't change my faith. I wouldn't ask my hubby to either.

Answer 10

I always wonder why this is even considered.   You should change your faith (or eliminate it) because of what you have decided is fact.

If you change your faith because of marriage, then your faith is more akin to the house in which you live.  It's nothing more than a social club that makes you feel good.   Why even bother practicing it at all?

By its very definition, religion should be one of the main factors affecting decisions in your life.   It's probably why half the people out here hate it so.  If your religion isn't affecting a decision as important as marriage, I'd re-think whether I were really all that into it.

Answer 11

No, if the guy really loves me he will respect my beliefs.

Answer 12

Hello,

If I really believed my religion was the truth and the correct way to God, I would not. Life in a marriage or relationship is but a short fleeting moment in the light of eternity and just as I was warned, I can assure you that 25 - 50 seems to go 5x faster than your first 25 years.

I see no reason to risk your eternal life for such a short reward in this life.

Cheers,

Michael Kelly

Answer 13

I could change but in my "hearth" i would still be a nonbeliever.

Answer 14

My wife is a Baptist, and I sometimes accompany her to church, though I realize there is no god.

I haven't the heart to tell her, cause she really needs the religion; and church going helped her through some bad times in a previous marriage.

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Answer 15

I think that its abit silly really that she would be baptized just for her fiancee, i mean there's alot more to just becoming part of a religion than just joining it e.g. the main belief of the religion, worship. If she doesn't believe in it, then she shouldn't be getting baptized, because the main belief of ther religion and what it stands for doesn't have much importance to it, and it also makes the religion seem nothing important, when to many people religion it is extremely important to them.

If they both love each other that much, then what religion they are shouldn't really matter. Even though her being baptized might show how much she loves her fiancee, how is it in anyway benefitting her? She's just going to be living a lie for the rest of her life.

Answer 16

No, I would not change my religion for someone I love

Beacuase no love can exceed the love towards God and my religion

Answer 17

Of Course not. I cannot change who I am for a lifelong commitment. If I'm not wanted the way I am, there is only trouble ahead. My question is, how important can this Baptism be as a prerequisite for marriage?

If this fiancee is getting engaged to a non-believer, or non-christian, and asking her at the last hour, this guy I think is only going through motions. However, if she became a believer just because she trusted or believed on how her fiancee lived his life, and truly gave her life to Jesus, that would be awesome. Also there are many  unequally yoked relationships that have worked out.

Answer 18

If he truly respected his own faith, he wouldn't want her to get baptized without belief. I suspect he wants her to do it to show her devotion to him, or to keep peace in the family or something. Anyone with a true respect and understanding of their faith wouldn't want someone to just go through the motions without committment.

It's an empty gesture, that is not born of true love, but fear of loss, etc.

Answer 19

I would not join a religion for a person. I would be tolerant and accepting of their beliefs, though my personal rule is that if they are too devout, they are likely not the one for me. I would NEVER ask someone to change their beliefs in order to be with me - not if I had any respect for them at all, which I should if I profess to love them.

Honestly, he sounds a little controlling for my taste. They really need to sit down with an impartial marriage counselor (yes, BEFORE they are married) and discuss this. They should NOT go to the pastor or preist - while some can counsel impartially, others cannot, and you don't know until you get there.

Sure, it's 'sweet' that she would do that. "Sweet" things can be bad, too. Does she want to wind up "sweetly' moving to a place she doesn't like because he wants her to? Will she be as sweet when he wants to spend every Christmas (or whatever) with HIS family? She needs to decide what she is and isn't willing to do for this man, what parts of her she's going to give up, before she says "I Do". Both he and she will be glad she did - better to hash it out now than for her to feel "trapped' because she started a trend she doesn't want to keep up.

Blessings,

Kate