Would you cheat if this happens to you?

Question

1 year before i meet my husband. I had two men in my life that i had relationships with. Then i meet the one, feel in love got married and have a baby boy. I told my husband everything in my past including the two ex's. To my surprise he's had issues with these two men. His a salsa bass player and he always has gigs. Now usually when he plays in clubs he hap-pends to see either one or the other. He explodes and starts hating me for making his life miserable.It gets really frustrating. He cheated on me once, but me being stupid i forgave him, we have a son; i don't want to break our family apart. Now I'm getting the feeling that if he keeps seeing them his going to cheat out of anger again. i don't know what to do. Guys what can i do from keeping him from cheating on me. I cant stop him from his Music. the question is. would you cheat, or think of cheating.

Answer 1

I'd leave, child or no. He is copping out with using anger as an excuse. Don't accept his excuses. Leave. WE ALL HAVE PASTS!  

Answer 2

Would I cheat being the girl, it would only make things worse. Unfortunately, the way he's treating you is not what you deserve. The fact that he's the one jealous, but also the one cheating is a big red flag. You don't want to break up your family, but do you really want to have your child growing up thinking the way to treat women is the way daddy treats mommy and vice versa. Please make a decision based on what's best for you and your child.

Answer 3

Why cheat, making it worst, get leave him

Answer 4

I wouldn't cheat if it happened to me and you have to realize you wouldn't be the one tearing the family apart if you left...he did that by cheating. He used him getting angry at you as an excuse to cheat.  

Answer 5

He might cheat on you.  Hopefully he will just stay upset with you when he sees them and take it no further.

Answer 6

It's time to go.  He is controlling.  Cheating aside, he is using your "past" to control you.  Trust me when I say he will not change.  Save your money, make a plan, move on.  You and your son will be much better off in the long run.

Good luck to you and your son!

Answer 7

I don't know but I also don't think the cheating issue is your biggest problem. It sounds to me like your man has anger issues. I think you should be more worried about that, especially with a child.

Answer 8

Either he has mental issues or he is good! The excuse about what you did in your past for his reasoning is lame! You deserve better!