Would you consider it rude for a guest to propose to his girlfriend at someone's wedding reception?

Question

I mean...if you were the bride or groom, would you be offended that the couple was "stealing your thunder"? Or would you not care?

I was at a wedding reception where something similar to that happened. I just wanted to know what other people think of it. Thanks. :)

Answer 1

welll for me it would depend on who it is i mean if it was my best friend then i wouldnt really care. . . but if i were the bride and it was the grooms friend that i barely knew then i would be really mad.

Answer 2

Ya i would.

I would want it to be a special time for us when he did it, not at someone elses wedding.

And its kinda like your stealing the bride and grooms light you know?

Answer 3

That would p**s the h**l out of me even if it wasn't my wedding! It would ALMOST be ok (that doesn't mean it would be ok!) if they did it near the end of the night, or quietly at a table of 8 or so people!

Answer 4

i would consider it to be rude, but what could i do about it? there wouldn't be any reason to let it ruin my special day.

Answer 5

IT DEPENDS. IF I WAS GETTING MARRIED AND MY BEST FRIEND WANTED TO PROPOSE TO HIS GF AND HE TOLD ME AHEAD OF TIME. I THINK IT WOULD BE FINE. AS LONG AS YOU HAVE ASKED THE PERMISSION OF AT LEAST ONE OF THE PEOPLE GETTING MARRIED AND THEY HAVE GIVEN THEIR BLESSING. THE MORE THE MERRIER!

Answer 6

I wouldnt care. Well...hmm.

If it was one of my closest friends or my husbands closest friends I wouldnt care- i would be totally excited for them!

But if it was some people we barely know...i would be uhh. WTF?

But no matter what; The day  would still be about me and my future husband.

Answer 7

Yes! I think it would be very rude. The people getting married want it to be their special day. The guest should wait and do it a different time. If someone did this at my wedding I would be pretty upset.

Answer 8

According to the "Big Book of Etiquette" that's one of the BIGGEST of No No's.  You DO NOT STEAL THE GLORY of the BRIDE'S BIGGEST DAY.  It is her day and you let her enjoy it and remember it exactly as she wants to.  Someone else trying to "cut" into her fairy tale is wrong and very, very rude.  If I found out that someone had plans to do something like that I would politely and privately take them to side and tell them in plain English "ABSOLUTELY NOT".  Do not steal the show from the wedding party ~ rule #1.  Wonderful question...you do deserve a star!!!!

Peace & Love :)

Answer 9

Yes, that is extremely rude, inconsiderate, inappropriate, uncouth, unsophisticated -- oh, well, you get the point.

Answer 10

Yeah!

They're stealing the show!

I would say:

"hey this is my wedding not your guyses time to shine"

I mean it's my day to enjoy myself and not worry about other people.  

I might say that or I might be like aaaaawwww...

Add me to your contacts please :-)

Answer 11

The wedding reception is a time to honor the bride and groom. I would consider it tacky and rude to make another announcement, whether it was an engagement, pregnancy, etc. during the reception.

Answer 12

Yes! Everyone should let the bride and groom enjoy the limelight on their day. It's one of the only days in a regular person's life when you're the star and it's all about you! It's rude to steal the attention away from them.

Answer 13

I think it would be an incredibly selfish thing to do.  Someone else's wedding celebration is NOT the place to celebrate your potential union.  And, God forbid, the lady say no and completely ruin the mood.  I cannot imagine anything more self-centered or rude.

Answer 14

Yes this is extremely rude.  The wedding is supposed to be all about the bride and groom and anything that takes away from that is inappropriate.  As another example, only the bride is supposed to wear a big white dress.

Answer 15

Yeah that's a little strange - maybe they're a competitive couple?! Really strange, yeah you just wouldn't do it?!

It's a very oddball thing to do, not to mention a bit rude..

Answer 16

This is quite rude and yes, I would have a problem with it.  Sounds like someone got a little jealous of the happiness the bride and groom were feeling.

Answer 17

Yeah it would be. It's the bride & groom's "day" and it would be "stealing their thunder."

I personally don't think I'd care if it happened on my wedding day, but I still think it's rude.

Answer 18

LOL. That's a terrible way to propose!

It's someone else's wedding!

I personally wouldn't care... but I'd be a bit pissed.

=)

Answer 19

yeah of course... why would someone propose at someones wedding? thats kind of a given to not do things like that. just like your not suppose to wear white to a wedding.... other then the bride obviously.

Answer 20

I personally would find it sweet.  I'd figure that we'd provided such a tone of love at the wedding that the couple was inspired themselves.

But I could see how someone who finds it more "their day" may not want the attention to be taken away.  Depends on how important being important is to you!

Answer 21

I personally wouldn't care.  But I do think it is frowned upon.  Almost like the person who proposed had to steal some of the attention.  Actually the more I think about it I do think it's rude, that is the Bride and Groom's day.  Now suddenly all the attention will be moved from them to the newly engaged couple.

Answer 22

h**l YES!!!

Ohmigosh, that's the rudest thing someone can do, or so I think, at a wedding.

I mean you're STEALING the BRIDE &GROOM'S moment!

It's suppose to be a very specail day.

&now that they think about it every anniversery, they will always remember having to share the attention between the crowd with them two getting married and those jerk being engaged. BLAHHHHH, I'll be p**s!

If someone does that at my wedding, I will NEVER invite those two rude people ever again to anything of mine.

That's just plain rude, and ohmigosh I would hate it if I had to share that moment with someone I really really highly dislike or I'm not even close to/related to.

Answer 23

Totally rude. No one should ever do that. A wedding is a time to celebrate  THE BRIDE AND GROOM. It would most certainly steal their thunder. I actually think that's a pretty selfish thing to do to the people getting married. All the attention would shift from the married couple to the just engaged one. It's also cheap too since everyone would toast to them and celebrate at the bride and groom's expense.  I think that proposing it's an important event on its own and should be done at a different time. Personally if my boyfriend proposed to me at my friends wedding, i would say no. I would think him an inconsiderate, insensible, classless  pig!

Answer 24

honestly i feel like it depends on the relationship of the couple to the bride and the groom. AND the timing of it...if they waited till all the dedications were made..and what not..and its like dance time..and they got up and made the announcement then..i think why not. the other thing about their relationship to the married couple is like.. my brother is 5 years older than me, and likely to get married soon..if i was to propose to my girlfriend at his wedding, id see less of a trouble than if it was like a friend of a friend who came and did it u  know? cuz then its like who the **** is this shmuck?

Answer 25

It depends on how it is done.  If it is done at the very end of the reception when everything is winding down then I don't have a problem with it.  Of course, I would be sure to ask the bride/groom first before doing it to see if they are okay with it.

This whole "stealing their thunder" stuff is a bit overstating it in my opinion.

Answer 26

I would not think so.

My son was married last week.

Many years ago I attended a reception where this guy caught the garter and his girlfriend caught the boquet.

He had been trying for a while to get up the courage to propose and that night in front of everyone he popped the question and she said yes.

No one was offended.

The girl was one of the bridesmaids.

The bride was so happy for her.

Pastor Art

Answer 27

No, I would not care, I feel honored that a guest of mine at my wedding reception loved his girlfriend enough to ask her to marry him.I think it would be a romantic setting, it is one of the best places he could ask her "the special question", and far as stealing mine & my husband's thunder",they couldn't do that because we would have alot more in reserve.Our day is special to us no matter what, and this would just add to our memories, that one our guests was filled with so much love for his girl, at that moment that he asked her to marry him; so to me there would be a blessing, more with our blessings we already have and will have forever!

Answer 28

OMG! NO! You can't do that... If it was my wedding I would be SO mad. And if I was the woman being proposed to I would have said no.

There are times that you just DON'T propose....

-Like on birthdays and most holidays (except christmas and valentines)

-At SOMEONE ELSES wedding.

-At a funeral.

-The same day you lose your job.

-in a bathroom or buy peeing "will you marry me" in the snow.

-Over the phone or email or by text message

- by saying .... "Do you want to get married or not?"  or " okay fine i give up i'll marry you, go buy yourself a ring" or "if i ask you to marry me then will you have s*x with me?"

these are just a few , add to them as you please...

LOL .....

Answer 29

I think that is really inappropriate. Weddings are about the couple and not about anyone else. Let the people have one day of their live when everyone is focused on them!

Personally, i do not like public proposals in the first place. It would be so embarrassing if the woman said no!

Answer 30

it is thoughtless, for exactly the reason you stated.

All toasts should be to the bride and groom, but when a couple gets engaged it would be rude not to toast them, so, that couple put every other guest there in an awkward position of being rude to the bride and groom, who, by the way, didn't shell out thousands of dollars to host an engagement party for two of their guests.

Very rude:(

Answer 31

I think that's not an appropriate moment to propose someone at other people's wedding. "Besides stealing their thunder", you would not have "your own thunder" with the 2 of you. Proposing should be special, and a moment for the couple alone, not to be in a wedding, full of people celebrating another couple. Not good for the bride and groom, and not special for a proposal.